My father looks at pornographic material on the internet. REALLY BAD stuff. I am postive that it was him looking at this stuff bacause all of these bad websites are on our computer history, and I walked in on him watching this stuff once. I am disgusted by it and it makes me feel differently about my father. What should I do?
Thanks.
2007-12-04 15:57:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am so sorry that you saw this and that it changes how you feel about your dad. You didn't say if he said anything when you walked in and saw this.....so I don't know if you talked any about it. That is what I would suggest to do...even if it makes you a little uncomfortable. I would just say something like...."dad can I talk to you about something? I just want you to know that the porn you were looking at on the computer disgusts me and makes me feel bad about you....and I don't want to feel that way." and then just see what he says. If he believes in God, then you could mention that you don't think God would like it. There really isn't anything you can do to stop him looking at it. You can talk to him and pray for him. He might need to talk to someone else if he says he wants to stop doing that. A pastor would be able to help him. I will pray for you to have the right words to say and for him to stop looking at that....also for you to be able to feel good about him again. You are not the only daughter to feel this way....and it is NOT your responsibility to fix him. If you talk and he is unhappy with you....that is not your fault....that is his problem. It is between him and God. I hope things work out and if you need to talk please email me.
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2007-12-05 01:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by bethy4jesus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what age a person is who is looking at it or the age of the people in the photos. Pornography is wrong and should not be allowed on the Internet in the first place. Definitely tell your dad how you feel if you feel comfortable enough or go to your mother, grandparent, teacher, or police.
Hope this helps.
2007-12-04 22:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This isn't any of your business. Your father is an adult and has a right to do what he wants. However, you might want to leave him a note on the computer that you would appreciate it if he would clear the history.
2007-12-04 16:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is understandable that you would look at your father in a different light after all he is your hero, your example the person you look to for guidance the person who you will pattern many of your own attitudes and behavior after. I would let him know how you feel and let him know he has let you down. It is not healthy for anyone to look at porn. It is an addiction and he needs help.
2007-12-04 16:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by eek! 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well i'd say to tell your mother that way u dont have to be uncomfortable by asking him about it..let ur mom know that it disgusts u n makes u think differently bout him that way she can tell him how its affecting his kids..jus remember that ur dad isnt the only 1 in the worls that does it no matter how gross it is..
2007-12-04 16:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
what was the bad stuff he was doing? and what cosistutes bad as long as its not againt the law.....that ur dad and ur pretty shallow to feel differnt bout ur dad....hes an adult for one and what he does in his private space is for him we are not to judge a peson....i hate smoking but i dont look at people in my family differently wake up would u rater him look at porn or go out and pick up crack/meth heads for sex..........hoop him up with a girfriend
2007-12-05 11:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by rico3040 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with porn. It's what guys watch. As long as it doesn't involve kids, then it's ok.
2007-12-04 16:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest that u tell ur dad about how u feel about that let him noe that it bothers u
2007-12-05 06:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by FuTurE SolDieR 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad is a growing man. threes nothing you can do about it. i know it hurts you .
2007-12-04 16:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men look at porn. Unless it was child pornography, he did nothing wrong. Get over it.
2007-12-04 16:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋