Goddess be with us, don't you just hate those damn shows???
How I handle it is mostly I don't watch those shows, they are just designed for men to feel horny and women to feel inferior. We are NOT inferior if we don't have bodies like those women. I think of all they have to do to maintain that unrealistically "ideal" body, and I say no thanks. I thank the Goddess Mother Earth that I have a body that is strong and healthy, and if it gets me to where I need to go, it is doing alright by me.
I focus on people who are dying in third world countries who have no clue about the excesses of such nonsensical processions down model catwalks and who would look at you with big brown eyes wondering why Americans care about such things.
Most of the world doesn't look like that. Much of the world is starving to death. If ever I get to feeling inadequate or envious, I get back to reality and look at some of the charities I give to , especially the Heifer Project, which is a charity where you can buy an animal for a family in need, and they make a living with it and breed it and pass along the good fortune. One goat can provide milk, cheese, fur, transportation and breeding other goats for a family, and save them from death. I think of this and the memory of Victoria's Secrets models becomes something that doesn't exist in my present world.
I get over the envy real fast. How do I combat the attack on your focus in this situation? Find someone in real desperate need.
You are a selfless and loving and caring soul, and you have been giving so much of yourself to your soul mate. You should not feel less important or valuable than ANYBODY. You are more than your body, you are your spirit.
Blessings,
Lady Morgana )0(
2007-12-04 16:48:27
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answered by Lady Morgana 7
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Guys look at women on TV the same way women look at men on TV. When you see Brad Pitt or David Beckham you go google eyes and wish you could have a man like that. Well men do the same thing when they see beautiful women on TV. Hollywood attracts their audience by the appearances of the actors and what not. What Im trying to say is dont let the people on TV affect the way you look at youself. You dont expect to see a guy who looks like brad pitt to live next door, do you? Well men dont expect real women to look like Victoria secret models either. Everyone is beautiful in their own skin. Just exercise and eat right and your body will tell you what you should weigh and look like.
Trust me..dont strive to look like the women on TV. Personnal the women on TV just give me motivation to go out and run an extra mile or two because Im doing it without surgery or personal trainers!!! We dont have those luxuries...!!
2007-12-04 16:02:12
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answered by Anonymous
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Ladies, a little bit of perspective on SOME of us men. Yes, thsoe models DO look sexy and have marvelous figures. BUT, we also look at their expressions and on MOST of them we see "It's ALL about me!" on their faces. For the most part, those women are unattainable to the average man and we realize that. We may fanatsize about them but when it comes right down to it, I don't think ANY m,an really wants to spenmd his life with them. They are high maintenance, snobby, self-centered, and have little idea of what it takes to be a REAL human beign and a loving partner. THAT is what men (or at least THIS man) look for in a woman. Many of us REALIZE the WE aren't prime examples of the ideal male and accordingly we don't realistically expect the women in our lives to be an example of the ideal woman.
There ARE men who DO want the ideal woman however, those men are just as shallow as the models that you saw on the Vicky's Secret program. Are THOSE the kind of men that you want in your lives? I didn't th8ink so. So, why are you all so wrooied about looking like those models? Just BE what you ARE, and be the BEST at it that you can and don't worry about which men find you attractive. I have been attracted to some VERY physically unattractive women but yet I was able to see the TRUE beauty that wasd them and THAT is what I tended to "fall for" and NOT their bodies.
Mind you, this is MY perceptin of how things go but, I know a LOT of men who share my perspective. If YOU don't know any men like that then YOU have been looking in ALL the wrong places.
Brightest Blessings,
Raji the Green Witch
2007-12-05 01:48:34
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answered by Raji the Green Witch 7
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I lost 80 pounds over 2-3 years. I felt hopeless until I decided that I wasn't going to buy into the TV/movie/fashion look. I lost the weight slowly,I gradually increased my veggies/fruit intake, I didn't punish myself for a slice of cheesecake. The key for me was to love myself for who I am,and realize that the weight loss was for my health. I learned to accept myself,and love myself. This weight has stayed off for 3 years, and i eat whatever I want. My problem was not the food,it was with me. I was in an unhappy marriage when I gained the weight, and had low self-esteem. Today I am okay with myself, have plenty of friends, and most the time don't feel I need to date. When I do date,if I get this vibe that they are going to want to control me, it's over. I learned to treat my self with the respect i deserve.
2007-12-05 07:07:45
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answered by mari athenan 3
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For some reason, a lot of people seem to be obsessed with the idea of being thin. When you think about it though, what's the point of being thin and unhealthy? Personally, I would MUCH rather have curves (not be overweight...just not be railthin) and be healthy! My brother said he prefers curves on a girl...as well as many other men I'm sure...because without curves, women would just look like men!! Anyways...that's how I feel about that! good luck with your dieting...and stay positive and healthy! :)
2007-12-04 15:55:23
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answered by Anonymous
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Don't watch that stuff anymore - it is completely unrealistic and unrelated to the normal female body. Diet for your health not your appearance, as your health is the most important thing you can have.
Who cares what men think of our bodies? If they are that shallow, who needs them?
I do think though, that very often we imagine that men are more choosy than they actually are - I am in my 50's, just sort of ok-looking, with a couple of extra kilos around the tummy, and I have a man of 42 who is interested in me. Whether I am interested in him or not is another matter,lol!
Anyway, what I'm saying is, do it for yourself, not to look good in lingerie, not for men, but for your own sake so you can continue in life as a healthy person.
2007-12-04 15:58:30
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answered by Anonymous
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Face it - those women on those shows are HOT, and men want to look at hot women. if a woman is trying to lose weight and have a healthy lifestyle, they should be DOING things, not sitting around watching TV. I hate it when people try to blame their self-esteem issues on others.
2007-12-05 07:45:25
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answered by Anonymous
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I focus on athletic ideals...like people who run marathons or climb mountains. That is a much cooler goal than looking like twiggy in my undies.
And my husband thinks it's hotter too :)
2007-12-04 15:54:17
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answered by teresa 3
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