I know shes in love .
But the guy she is with keeps going back to this one lady .
And i mean this is constantly happening .
and she gets hurt everytime but then goes back..
Which i think is ridicoulous she keeps going back because she knows its gonna keep happening ..
I need to give her something to make her understand she can do better, and she don't need him.
Help?
2007-12-04 15:45:11 · 15 answers · asked by Babyloveex3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A good ole heart to heart with mom....Tell her first off how much you love and respect her as a woman, then tell her how it really hurts you to see her being sooooo disrespected in this relationship. Tell her she deserves soooo much better. She sounds like she may have some esteem issues and this man sure isn't making things better, Then ask her how she would feel if a partner of yours was treating YOU the same way......What would SHE tell YOU?
2007-12-04 15:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by grami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my opinion nothing you do or say will change her feelings. When you are in love with someone nothing else matters. Sounds to me as if he is confused and is tied between two lovers, the other woman probably feels the same way as your mom like "He keeps going back to her" because he is moving between the two. Only time will tell what will happen but bear with it for now. Let her know you love her either way, don't tell her not to be with someone she really likes because that may cause ill feelings between the two of you! Good luck girl!
2007-12-05 20:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by CHEL8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs some serious counseling. I have heard of other women, single or otherwise, who constantly seem to be drawn to men that they will never have as their own.
She's facing denial issues, lack of self-esteem, little confidence to go out there and find someone eligible, and deliberately puts herself in positions where she already knows she will be hurt.
She won't believe she can do better at this point. Not until she gains a great deal of self insight and confidence.
What I really see as bad for you is that she is including you in her misery. That is NOT a fair or right thing for a mother to do to her offspring. If you take a stance on that issue, you may get a response. It's not fair to you! Period.
2007-12-05 01:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by ThisIsIt! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, because no one will listen to it until they are ready. And that is exactly the point.
You can't do anything for her.
Express your point of view but do not beat her up or be mad at her. It is her nature. Simply be there for her and patch her back up when she is wounded, she did it for you growing up, I am sure.
When people are in love they do a lot of things that people on the outside think are foolish, and may actually be foolish, but they will stick with it until THEY have had enough.
Everyone has a breaking point, remember that. I have tried to talk friends out of bad relationships and situations but they will do what they want. It hurts, I know, but you have to let her do it.
Remind her you love her and you are there for her. She won't need you always showing her how bad he is when she might already know, be the good.
Please remember, EVERYONE has a breaking point, she will see but it may not be as soon as you want her to but it may be tomorrow.
Patience. Love.
Can't help who you love. Neither can your mom.
Sorry.
2007-12-04 23:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by kris10nicole_cbo 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The best you can do is stay out of it. Be as loving as possible and let her know you'll always be there for her. Ask her from time to time if everything is okay or if she needs advice, but I think you should leave her dating life to her to handle. If she asks you what you think of him be gentle but tell the truth. She'll learn over time.
2007-12-04 23:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Gigi 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The older you get the more you put up with bad mates, I suggest you tell this guy off and tell him if he hurts your mom again he's gonna deal with you. Pump up your mom's self esteem tell her how good she looks and hopefully she'll find someone better.
2007-12-04 23:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, many of us NEVER learn this lesson - we end up falling for "our type" of guy (or girl in my case), and we ALWAYS get burnt by it...
The only thing she needs is a WAKE UP CALL - but by ACTUALLY giving her one, she'll end up hating you for meddling in her affairs!
What you CAN do is wait until she asks for advice - THEN point her in the right direction. DO NOT try to FORCE her to change - unless you are VERY skilled at diplomacy ;);););)
2007-12-04 23:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is doing this because she wants to..There is not much you can do. It sounds like she is in a not so healthy pattern. He will keep doing this until she says no more. He knows her weaknesses and takes advantages of that.
2007-12-04 23:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get her the book every woman should read "eat love pray" maybe you both can read it together for christmas or something :) she really needs you...but have her feel like you really need her, and talk to her...your mom should be your best friend...treat her like one <3
2007-12-04 23:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by gette_zoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, because she's hoping that someday, he will be hers again. There's no harm in trying but it's part of her rainbow. Although she must wake up and move on.
Just pray for your Mom. She needs your prayer in this crucial situation. Try to understand her and please be patient and caring coz she needs you now.
Take care and GOD BLESS!
2007-12-04 23:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mutya P 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋