My parents are always telling me how much they want me to move out. My father refers to me as a "sucker," because I live in his house, he has nothing but pure hate for me. My mother is always thinking I am lying (about pointless things!). I am in high school, I am only 16...I got a job, but it has not made any improvements within the last 4 months. Both my parents are heavy alcoholics and I honestly believe it has proven detrimental to their mental health. I have two siblings (one in college, one just out--not living w/in the house), for many reasons, I can not turn to them. They experienced similar problems, but my parents have never liked me especially...they think I am going through the same as them. My parents play odd mental games to... establish control over me (?) and my leg is just now recovering from a shoe my father threw at me. I am an AP student, I enjoy schooI, I feel so hated. I try to be a good person...I am a happy person...I have to get out. What can I do?
2007-12-04 15:06:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Call the department of social services and report them for abuse and asked to be placed in a foster home!
That is horrible your parents are treating you like that! I feel terrible for you! You don't have to put up with that! If you go into foster care, you will be so much better off!
In California, they pay for all your college and set you up in your own apartment and pay the rent and expenses when you turn 18!
Find out if they have that in your state because it would be really worth it! That way you could really get a good start in life!
2007-12-04 15:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by Buddie 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I can tell from your writing that you are an intelligent person. You must understand that your parents are sick. Alcoholism is a disease and they are not capable of making rational decisions or of treating you as they should. I feel for you. Because you are a minor your parents are still legally responsible for you. They have many obligations that they are probably not living up to when it comes to you. I don't think moving out on your own is the solution. What kind of a life could you make for yourself at your age? Calling CPS is not a bad idea at all. They can help you and maybe it will wake up your parents. There is a saying. It says that sometimes you have to hit a mule upside the head with a 2 by 4 to get his attention. CPS may be that 2 by 4 and make your parents realize what they are doing. It will let them know that you are serious and maybe cause them to seek help. Good luck to you, I hope it all works out.
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2007-12-04 15:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by jughead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go to child protective services also theres a shelter for kids just like you.I cant remember the name its funded by the catholic church.This one woman a Nun has helped so many kids with parents who drank too much or were abusive or threw them out..They wont shove church down your throat but will offer you help.Theres something else boystown of America they would probly help you.Please get off yahoo answers and look it up.I will pray for you tonite and I want you to know that as I read your story I felt like we were freinds.Like I could really see what you were going through.Maybe you should consider writing when you get through all this.It may be a talent you have.Please email me or IM me if you like.You shouldnt have to live where you are not loved. They may love you or they may not after all they are on the sauce.I just want to give you a hug really because nobody should have to live like that.You have shown here you are not bitter.You are a good kid.The best thing you can do for yourself is get yourself out of this mess.Talk to a social worker tell her your being abused your life is unbearble.Dont ever give up.If I was rich or even had a home of my own Id adopt you but I cant so please take care of yourself and never give up.I can feel your fire for life!
2007-12-04 15:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SINCE YOU HAVE A JOB sorry what I would do if i was you do you have any adult Friends who could help you file some papers with the courts so you can be emancipated from your parents it just means you want to be on your own and a lawyer can fight for you to get out on your own since you are working and going to school you are showing your self to be mature so the courts should allow it your parents are just going to cause you more trouble I would get out or see if there is a close family relative you could live with till you at least finish school and turn 18!
or a friend even if your need to pay a little rent it would be less stress than dealing with abusive parents!!!
good luck I will pray for you! you have my vote!!!
2007-12-04 15:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This woman informed her daughters, 10 and 3 to take a seat at Chickfila. She ordered food. the ten year previous woman replaced into sitting w/ her sister. Her sister, 3 year gets up and leaves. She runs around and is going interior the boys's room. I had greater helpful seen spot than the sister. The mom yelled and hunted for the three year previous. They finally sat down and ate. The mom criticized each and every thing relating to the ten year previous. i could no longer stand it. the different mothers heard it too. I reported why do you blame her? you are the mummy. She reported her 10 year previous has been gazing the sister for years. I reported you could no longer blame your infants on your shortcomings. She reported the girl had the cellular telephone so she will't pay interest. lower back I reported you are the determine. Very unhappy. The unfavorable 10 year previous did no longer respond and ran out the door. She had chores to do while they have been given abode.
2016-09-30 21:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please talk to your school counselor... they can access the system on your behalf.
Tell the counselor everything you have related here. You should not have to put up with abuse from addicts.
There is bound to be a foster-care program you can get into... that way you will have a safe place to stay at (and be protected) while you finish high school.
The courts can award some child support money from your parents.
You can save your money from your job and be able to move out of the foster home when you are 18 and graduated.
Because of this, you should be able to get grant money to go through community college for career training.
2007-12-04 15:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh Boy! That's so sad.
Yeah situation likes this sometimes gets too tough. I can understand what phase you must be going through.
Remember the rule "SILENCE IS GOLDEN".
sINCE YOU ARE JUST 16 AND NOT FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT YOU no other option than to tolerate your parents till you get into university.
When at home try to keep yourself busy in your own work. Try to find happiness elsewhere such as Friends. Join some good social club.
Parents do feel we need to get independant at this ages. Hence they behave bit too harsh. We must take their harsh behaviour in positive spirit since whatever they do, they do for our own good.
Hope this helps.
Have a good day.
2007-12-04 15:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hm mm...what is really going on? You told us what you parents do. What have you done? Parents don't usually try to kick their kids out for no reason. Your parents love you, no matter what you believe. What has caused them to distrust you so much?
2007-12-06 08:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry you have not been given a nuturing loving home every kid should have but living out of home is very expensive. maybe contact family member or sibiling (i know you said you cant turn to them) and let them know how bad things are and see if you can find somewhere to stay. living out of home and by yourself while in school, you wont be able to afford it. another option is contacting child services for adoptive home or a youth hostel or somewhere safe. maybe a YMCA will be able to have you.
2007-12-04 15:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have any other family try to stay with them until you turn 18.. believe me moving out is hard.. if not maybe you could see a counselour and a mentor ..good luck and God Bless
2007-12-04 15:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by kmd110685 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋