I am really feeling this guy and I live in Cleveland he lives in Atalanta I am flying down to be with him for 4 days. Now the problem is I talk alot and he don't, I am starting to feel that I made a mistake by booking this flight I am felling like he has no interest in me anymore. I am afraid to ask him so please tell me should I just go to Atlanta and see how it goes from there or should I ask him how he feels about me and deal with the answer? And I still go to Atlanta and have fun because my ticket and hotel is already paid for? I can't stop thinking about him everytime I sign into Yahoo and see him online I go cold Turkey and normally wait to see if he notice me first.I never know what to say to him anymore before we actully spent time together I had alot to say now I am speechless.
2007-12-04 14:55:10 · 13 answers · asked by Mz.G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to I didn't mention that 3 weeks ago he visted me.And I am also in a wedding on the 21st also in Atlanta.So he is not the only reason I am going there.
2007-12-04 15:12:56 · update #1
Have a serious talk about how you both feel. Then take care of everything from there. :)
2007-12-04 14:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to start with, kind of hint around to him on how he actually feels about you! You could still take the trip as a vacation if you feel you would enjoy yourself anyway! But you would have to go because you really wanted to for yourself not to maybe see him! Have a friend go with you or a sister! because a woman should never ever travel by herself in this not so safe world we live in today! and go to have fun! Hell use that for talking with him again, tell him your going to take a vacation, but don't tell him where you will be actually going, tell him disneyland or something! and see what his response is! that may get him talking!
I think you just need a little break from him for a while! Avoid talking to him if he doesn't want to talk, and get involved into something you like to do to get your mind off of him! Make him make the next move! If in fact he does want a real relationship with you! Make him sweat it out a while, make him make the next move and don't feel guilty doing this, it will make you stronger and let you have more control over your feelings!
He may be having some problems he don't want to envolve you with at this time! but there's no reason for you to have to hound him either just because he doesn't feel like talking much! He's not the only thing in your life! So maybe once he gets things figured out he'll start talkng again!
But there's no reason for you to sit in lingo in the mean time! Just because may be things aren't going to well for him, doesn't mean you have to put your life on hold either!
2007-12-04 23:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite understand your question. If you like the guy go to Atlanta and have a good time. If you have reason to think he doesn't care for you, then why would he have invited you to come to visit? I am just a little confused about the circumstances. Just do what feels right.
2007-12-04 23:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, no one wants to be hurt! I don't blame you for being skeptical and nervous! You must overcome this insecurity, tell him that you understand his shyness, but you need to be reassured about this trip. Ask him what he expects from you and this time together. Is he serious about getting to know you and furthering this relationship or does he just want to have a casual type of affair.
You must be prepared to hear either answer, even if its the one you don't want to hear. If that is the case, you should still go and have a good time, his feelings may change when you spend time together.
Remember always practice safe sex, and if you don't want to have sex with him, you don't have to. I hope this helps you and good luck!
2007-12-04 23:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by terry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are YOU going to see HIM? it should be the other way around! but if you're getting the feeling that he's not interested anymore, you HAVE to ask him. What would be the point of flying all the way to Atlanta just to get a broken heart?
Good luck!
2007-12-04 23:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by purple daisies! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my b/f online almost 5 yrs ago. He was never speechless when it came to me being online...he always noticed immediately if I were to ever sign on...this guy is not into you as you thought. Perhaps he is getting cold feet about meeting you. Just be straight up and ask him. As you said, the trip is paid for...ask him what he wants you to do so you can finallize your plans. That is how you put it..."so you can finallize your plans". Good luck
2007-12-04 23:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by HeavenlyAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general guys don't talk as much as girls do... at least to the opposite sex. So him not being as loquatious as you doesn't mean much.
You have already bought the ticket... so head out for a nice vacation. If you hit it off... great. If you don't... well you got to see Atlanta. Nothing ventured, nothing gained!
2007-12-04 23:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by A A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I would still go to Atlanta and see him in person. I'm sure once ya'll are talking in person he will talk more. yeah I think you should ask him if he has intrest in you..but enjoy your vacation and if he dosen't feel the same way about you..then it's his loss
2007-12-04 23:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he wanted you to go then i think hes still intrested, but guys may deend a relationship on physical things, like being near enough all the time to actually talk face to face etc. at least thats how most ppl i know are
long dist. relations suck
good luck
2007-12-04 22:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you flying to Atlanta to meet a guy, why is he not coming to Cleveland.....hmmmm how serious is he?
2007-12-04 22:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by InquiringMind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋