I need help. I've been thinking that I should go and stay with my Dad. I'm 16 now and my parents were divorced when I was 5. I don't know who to talk to my Mom about it though.
2007-12-04 14:54:54 · 8 answers · asked by Marcus O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just tell her that you would like to try living with your dad now.
You are a young man and need the company and guidance of your dad more right now.
She will understand.
2007-12-04 15:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's a hard one.
Has your mother been a good mom and you just want more time with dad now?
That will hurt your mother very much, I will tell you be prepared. It depends on why they divorced and how they feel toward each other.
Do they live close enough for you to stay in the same school district? If so, why not do a "Trial run?" Stay with Dad for a month and see mom every other weekend. If this is at all possible.
If they don't live that close together, that won't work. So, the best thing you can do (if your dad has already agreed) is to talk to your mom and let her know up front how much you love her and appreciate her. And this in no way has any reflection on her, it's you, something you need to do for yourself. Then tell her you want to try living at Dads.
If she's loved you, taken good care of you, she is going to go into shock. She may even start to say things very meen that she really does't "mean", but it's because she's extremly hurting inside. Wondering where did she go wrong?
I'm only trying to tell you how I would feel if my son at 16 came to me with that kind of heartbreaking news.
Good luck to you and if she's always been there for you?
Do not ever forget who raised you and loved you. OK?
2007-12-04 23:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Mom about it, but make sure that she knows that you are wanting to bond with your Dad... that it's not your wish to get away from her or exclude her from your life. She is going to need reassurance that you still want her in your life, but you also need your Dad to be a bigger part in your life. I would ask her to help you ask your Dad about the move so that she feels like she is being included on the decision and so she knows you still need her.
2007-12-04 23:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by autonomous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, do it gently. She could feel rejected otherwise.
Make sure you tell her how much you appreciate what she has done for you and taught you, but that you also need to get a males perspective since you are getting older.
Tell her that the best person to give you imformation on becoming a good man is from your father.
2007-12-04 23:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by cashew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, Mom's want to know. Just sit her down and talk. I feel like a better mom when my sons talk to me and tell me what they are thinking, or going through. I guess it would depend on the relationship you have with her, but talk to her, she'll love you no matter what.
2007-12-04 23:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by candice b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you would like to sit down and talk with her. she's your mom, you should be able to tell her anything and she'll understand.
Tell her you would like to try living with your dad. you want to see how it will work out... maybe tell her you need a father-figure around.
good luck and don't worry. ;)
2007-12-04 23:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by Alyssa Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk to her, tell her you need to get to know your dad, too. and hope your mom would understand
2007-12-04 23:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by natalia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just come out and say it. it will be easier for her to hear the truth from you then anyone else.
2007-12-04 23:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by george l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋