Whenever we're watching tv while eating, and whenever there is sort of like a useless pathetic character in a show. I am thinking that he thinks that is what I am. Or if I see a guy being submissively helpful to a father like washing his feet when he hurt his leg. I think he's wishing that would be me.
2007-12-04 14:45:28 · 11 answers · asked by 2nd Commander 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he's always been saying to me not to sure out like my uncles (his little brothers) who can't keep a job, and can't even survive, when my dad pays for all the utility bills and also they don't even have to pay rent. Yet one of the uncle still has to ask for money. So he's always been viewing me as someone that might turn out like that.
I know i'm not smartest, I think i'm just a bit lazy sometimes. But i'm always feeling like he thinks i'm going to turn out like that. He ever so often reminds me to stay on track.
2007-12-04 14:59:23 · update #1
It's not your dad Commander, it's you. You are trying to live your life based on his expectations. Stop it. Live up to your own expectations. I've known you for awhile on here. You seem like a good, well put together kid (with a few crazy questions here and there). But you are young and probably unsure of what the future hold for you. Set down, write yourself out some goals, both long term and short term. Your goals, not your father's goals. Make a plan. I reenlisted after my first tour in the Army simply because I didn't know what I wanted to do if I got out. We were so poor, college was not an option, even with the VA help. I was 21 then, about the same age as you now. All, or should I say most parents, want life better for their kids than it was for them. When they see their kids passing up opportunities that they would have taken or doing something different than how they would have done it, they get concerned. But that's natural, it's a different world now. You used the words "he thinks" or "I think he was wishing", well unless you are that guy on heros who can read minds, you don't know for sure. Just live for today with a plan for the future.
2007-12-05 05:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Brad M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I use to think like you when it came to my father as well, because i got pregnant my senior year, but I proved to myself that i could take care of my son, keep a job and graduate as well, he would throw in good job, or keep it up.
You should really not assume that your father thinks that way of you, why don't you talk with him I know it is hard but quit assuming and do something about it.
There is nothing wrong with being lazy every now and then, but there is a time when you need to grow up move out and be a man and there is nothing wrong with you father keeping you on track, that is his way of telling you keep up on what your doing and keep doing a good job, and he is also telling you that so yoy don't end up like you uncle, can you see yourself living off someone all your life.
Goodluck but remember to try to communicate, that is the only will you really know best of luck to you!
2007-12-05 05:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by Texasmom26/30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man that sucks!!! I hope your dad does not think or treat you like that. Why do you think this and has he done or said anything to make you think and or feel like this? If so keep your head up, and just ignore him. Everyone has got to be their own person. Have you ever talked to him about it? Maybe you should ask him or talk to him if you feel that way. Heck he might be thinking you see him as a failure and that maybe why he acts different when he sees things like that, I mean he might be thinking the same thing you are except he might be thinking you see him as one. I hope that's not the case for both of you.
2007-12-04 14:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person in this life that you can control is you. I suspect your Dad has less disappointment in you than you have in yourself. If you think you are lazy - do more... and if there is something that you don't like about yourself, change it. The only person holding you back is you. You dictate how others may and may not treat you, so love yourself first - and if your Dad doesn't follow suit it has nothing to do with you.
2007-12-04 15:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by autonomous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you, and I suspect he see now and then in your times of laziness, possibly a symptom of those in the family that have become dependent on him to survive. He won't be around forever, And he wants for you to accept responsibility's and become a person who can and will take care of himself... showing him some compassion when he's tired and has worked hard, wouldn't hurt either of you...
2007-12-04 15:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sir, I have been answering you for awhile and I remember, you saying you and your family were not close. That you are a Christian and they were or are atheist's or however you spell that. Anyway I would not worry about it and remember you are your own man and you have your heavenly father to follow. And he will help your dad as necessary. So are as I said your are your own man and remember that as others respect you. And try to find a way to forgive your father. Best of Luck and Love from one Christian to another.
2007-12-04 19:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by oldestme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most father-son relationships are like that! YOU are only what? 18 or 19? You should see the way my man & his dad fight! It's horrible & my man is 40!! Just live your life the way you want to because if your dad is anything like my man's dad, YOU are in A LOT of trouble!! ((((hugs))))
2007-12-05 12:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by Harley Mama!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-25 11:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine is similar. But I could care less what he thinks. I know who I am and that's all that matters.
2007-12-04 16:45:24 · answer #9 · answered by tercentenary98 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're just paranoid, take control of it study up get good grades prove to him you arent a failure. or do something great with your life :D
2007-12-04 14:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by sean c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋