It is not like I talk about it all the time and I am a nice person, so I don't understand why people care so much about low self-esteem. It truly is something that I can't help.
2007-12-04 14:45:17 · 17 answers · asked by pond 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not true that everyone does, some people wouldn't mind the idea of being the one to comfort someone, or make them feel better about themselves.
But the reason why a lot of people do, is that if you don't like yourself, they wonder why should they?
Even if you have no confidence, ACT like you do.. then people will think you are, and in turn that actually makes you a more confident person.
I did exactly that and I like myself so much more, people like me more too.. but by now that doesn't matter so much to me.
2007-12-04 14:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Posthuman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
low self esteem is not always a bad thing but at the same time it can be a hindrance to any relationship. The only way that it could be a bad thing is if you were to keep mentioning it or become overly possessivee of guys believing that you will lose them because this will normally put alot of guys off. There was a great line in the film HITCH that is similar to the situation "they do want to see the real you but not all of it at once" meaning show them all the good side of you and the bad things like low self esteem try and hold it back and once you know them better explain the situation becuase by this point they probably already like you and who knows the self esteem issues may have gone by then. Believe me when i tell you there are guys who will be sensitive to your emotions and be able to help you with your self esteem issues. The main thing is believing in yourself. I hope this helps i'm sure you're a great girl and you may even find someone very soon just stay positive :)
2016-04-07 09:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Janet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't like a negitive person. They like positve people. Life has their challenges and it's all part of life. If you can't love yourself then how can you love anyone else. I know I have battled that all my life until God has been healing me from my insecurites. It is unhealthy to have low self esteem and you "CAN" help it. BUt if yoou chose not to change then people will find you a depressant. I am being very honest and from experiance. It hurts when people especially the people I love back away from me because when I was having low self esteem. It's a turn off. So I chose to change and it's amazing the compliments I get now. People tell me I actually glow and they see the difference in me. It's a great feeling to have and I attend to keep it up. You can be the same if you truly want it. Nobody can change you, only you can change yourself. You got to get out of the pity pot mode
2007-12-04 15:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by conny 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A depressed person is boring and no fun.
People want to date someone who is lively, uplifting, and fun.
Besides, people with low self-esteem often have other problems like, anger management issues, putting words in people's mouths, and getting upset over perceived slights that never happened. Who wants to deal with that?
2007-12-04 14:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by Grandpa S 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hen you have low self-esteem it means you don't think much of yourself and if you don't think much of yourself then others are not going to are they? Lots of people have this problem and it can easily be put right just try to be yourself relax when your with friends e.t.c. getting talking to others who feel the same way as you do will help and in the mean time stop worrying about what people think!! and I'm sure you are attractive!!!!!!! good luck.
2007-12-04 15:03:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Low self-esteem CAN be helped if you really wanted to so save the excuses.
I consider it unattractive simply because if you can't even be happy with yourself, how can you be happy with anyone else? Even if you don't show it all the time, the times you do makes people uneasy. It's just no fun to be around someone who is always throwing a pity party.
2007-12-04 14:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
If someone has a low self-esteem then they don't carry themselves well. Confidence in a girl is so incredibely attractive to myself personally, because it shows that they are powerful, which is appealing.
2007-12-04 14:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because people with low self esteem are affraid of living. To them the world is an unsafe place to live. They are passive manipulator, believe in stuffs like unconditional love instead of believing in the number one most important person in their life : SELF
2007-12-04 14:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by MC Kwek 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Most people relate best to someone that makes them feel good about themselves when they are with you....you cannot do that if you have low self esteem.......also you can appear needy and usually that is a big turnoff....Love yourself before you can love someone else..
2007-12-04 14:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by InquiringMind 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship youu will always think of the other person as sexy but when the person keeps putting themselfs down like im ugly, im fat you actually start seeing them like that thats why is so unattractive!!!
2007-12-04 14:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by mE1hOtMa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋