Today, my ex boyfriend came to my house unexpectedly, right after my mom and sister went to their jobs. We talked for a couple of minutes and then he asked me if he could come in, instead of standing at the door. When I refused, he decided to tell me the reason why he was came. He asked me if we would like to get back together. When I said no, he got angry. He called me a b**** and a whore and then he pushed me. I fell backwards, slipping on the welcome mat on my way back, and hit my head on the tile. And he just left without a word. I'm okay, but I'm not sure what I should do. Should I tell the boy who I'm about to start dating (he's too nervous to ask me out, so I planned on asking him tomorrow) or tell his mom (his mom and my mom are best friends) or keep it to myself? Help please. BTW, we're both 15.
2007-12-04 14:45:09 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hold off on going out with another guy for a few weeks and tell your parents what happened.Then have them tell the boy if he EVER comes to the house, calls etc he WILL be arrested.It might be a good idea to file charges so they cops will have a reason to arrest him next time he should try something.
Then date the other guy.
2007-12-04 14:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Tell Your Mother. When A Guy Hits You He Is Dead Wrong. You Could Bungee Jump Kicked Him In His Nuts.....When You Hit A Girl Its Abuse.....You Could Tell The Police If You Wanted to Be A *****. Go With Your Mom First.....I Know If Someone Hit A Girl In My Family....They Would Have ALOT Of Problems To Deal With. Dont Take Crap From a Dude. You're A Strong Girl.
2007-12-04 14:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by beandestroyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you had to go through this and you did not tell your parents???. Here it is ,I hope you listen tell your mother or father .Why because this boy assaulted you and that is an offense in which he should pay for. If your mom goes with you to the sheriffs office they will pick him up and he will have to answer for what he did to you. You don't want him doing this to you again or your new boyfriend or some other girl. He sounds like the type of guy who has to get his way or no way. Speak to your parents. Good Luck
2007-12-04 14:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell anyone you feel comfortable with. The more people you know, the safer you'll be in case your ex tries anything again. Definitely don't get back together with him no matter what. If that's all the better he can control himself you need to stay away. If it gets really bad and he starts harassing you, there is always the option of a restraining order but hopefully he'll leave you alone now.
2007-12-04 14:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this young man has the makings of the abusive mate. be glad that you are not going out with him anymore. you don't need to tell the boy you are about to start dating, but you should tell the guys' mom. she should know so that she can see if she can get him into some therapy. if the situation is not addressed, he might hurt or kill some woman. he has an obvious problem with his anger and behavior that needs to be addressed now. my sister married a man who abused her oldest child terribly and he beat her up when she was pregnant with their twin boys. there were complications during the birth and one of the twins was deprived of oxygen during the birth process and he was brain damaged. he died when he turned 10. his twin brother acts just like his abusive father. he had a girlfriend and she broke up with him because of the way he treated her, pushing her and squeezing her face in his hand, etc. anyway, my sister wishes someone had told her about her abusive mate before she married him. don't keep that to yourself. that kid has got real problems and someone should care enough to put it out front so that he can get help and that some other girl doesn't get hurt. i wish you all the best
2007-12-04 14:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by thecatmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow stay AWAY from him because that's scary. I would tell your mom for sure because she'll know what's best to do.. I might wait a little while to talk to the other boy, though, just until things "cool off" so that there isn't more drama created when your ex finds out you're dating someone else.
2007-12-04 14:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by e-kay? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a jerk....ignore him, any guy who is desrespectful enough 2 push u does not even deserve 2 hav u talking 2 him....dont talk 2 him anymore and if he talks 2 u tell him u never wanna see his face again, cus u sound way too good 4 him if hes like that.
u can tell the boy ur about 2 start dating but he might get into something with ur ex-boyfriend so i wouldnt tell him.
2007-12-04 14:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by chocolate22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um first off a guy who does something like that has a few screws loose and second i dont think you really want to tell him for 1 he may get angry (and we all no revange is sweet but an eye for an eye makes the world go blind) and 2 now your putting alot of pressure on the other guy who is caught in the middle. my suggestion is not telling him until youve gone out with this other guy and you guys click.
2007-12-04 14:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by Roger T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your Mom and call the police. There is no excuse for behavior like that. He is in very serious need of some profession help. The only way to make sure he gets it is to file a police report ASAP.
2007-12-04 15:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by huny_ina_hardhat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, tell mom. and don't have anything to do with this boy ever again, pushing leads to punching. He;s an abuser, don't let him have another chance. And give yourself a little time before dating someone else, you may have to look carefully at what type boys you're attracted to. don't start off wrong, you'll end up a victim.
2007-12-04 14:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋