It's the idea of something going into my body that i find akward and scary.
I'm afraid i won't get 'wet' or feel anything at all when we approach eachother.
how can i fix this. i don't get sexually excited
is it because i'm a virgin?
2007-12-04 14:30:03 · 11 answers · asked by Ash and june 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm 20 years old
2007-12-04 14:30:34 · update #1
20 yr old Female
2007-12-04 14:31:10 · update #2
No its not because your a virgin plenty of other women were once virgins and they still felt things and you still get wet. So thats good of you to start wondering now. You dont' want to be married and push your husband away this won't be good for you or him. Its part of loving one another. rather than just being platonic friends.
You should speak to your doctor and see what she can do perhaps you need to be checked out.
As far as being scared thats normal. Tell him to be gentle with you if he doesn't already know. ( lets hope he knows that lol) and go slow at first he should get you in the mood and ask you how you are feeling throughout things. and if you want to go further tell him so. It will hurt a few times at first but after a while that will go away . Maybe pick up a book from the library to give you a heads up what to expect . it won't be able to express the feelings that will come with you and your mate.
Don't worry im sure things will be okay in the end.
Good luck to you both
2007-12-04 14:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be mentally ready, and it doesn't sound like you're at that stage right now. Try taking classes that relaxes both body and mind (like yoga).
And the most important step; masturbate.
If you can get your mind ready, then you can get your body ready.
2007-12-04 14:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you too??? i am very nervous at my honeymoon night!!! i am 24 and i am getting married in May and i am still a virgin. the only think i can tell you is to tell him to be slow and careful. just go to the doctor and they can help you out. i hope things turn out for you good....
2007-12-04 14:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by txlady24 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would discuss your fears with your soon to be husband. It might be time to seek some counseling. I'm guessing there is some religious more that holds you, why not seek counsel from your religious leaders?
2007-12-04 14:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by Abolir Las Farc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting married? Have you not felt sexually aroused by your soon to be husband? It could be hormonal. Just wait.... go have sex if its still that way go to a doctor or find someone who does sexually arouse you!!
2007-12-04 14:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him to b gentle. DO a lot of fereplay and use lotion. It will be a good idea to seek professional help, though
2007-12-04 14:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a small toy or use your fingers and experiment with it on yourself for a while. read a trashy romance or something to "get you wet" or lube up the toy...
2007-12-04 14:34:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No it's not because you are virgin. I am virgin too, but I don't fear sex.
2007-12-04 14:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow im in the same position n im also 20 and my sweet heart n i are planning 2 get marry 2 but i usually say 2 myself that ... wat happen if i dunt last?, or if she doesnt feel an orgy or sumthing like that but she told me not 2 trip cuz everything will change when were actually doing it, sooo dunt trip everything will b OK ...................................................... i think.
2007-12-04 14:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by feito lindo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously????? ----- before i was married we had not had sex and wedding night was no real problem for either of us ---- just leave plenty of time for foreplay and let what feels good guide you ----- have fun
2007-12-04 14:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋