I have been failed several times for asking girl out. I am not shy, I just don't like to talk a lot when it not really important thing to say. I lack scene of humor. can anyone help me so I change it.
2007-12-04 14:25:50 · 8 answers · asked by Dragonman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you think you are failing because you are not communicative and you don't seem to have the sense of humour that girls might like - perhaps you should look at doing some work to change your communication patterns.
Try to develop some interests and hobbies in things that are outgoing and will take you out to meet people - play sport, learn to dance (dance classes will get you to meet girls)...
You don't want to do a complete personality make-over either. You should go with your strengths. If you are quiet and not talking, perhaps you can do the "strong silent type" ... the mysterious brooder.
So - watch movie archetypes of the mysterious brooder and model yourself on them:
Aragorn out of the Lord of the Rings
The Thomas Crown Affair
2007-12-04 14:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
* The best way to ask a girl out is in person. If that is not possible due to lack of opportunity or because you aren't confident enough, your best alternative would be over the phone. Practice what you will say beforehand if you aren’t confident.
* Make sure you are well groomed and dressed nicely. Don’t overdo it, and make sure to suit your own style. And of course check your breath beforehand!
* If the girl says no, don’t take it personally. Continue the conversation for a little longer, say it was nice talking to her and walk away. The fact that you took her rejection well may even pique her interest. If she isn’t a stranger make more of an effort to get to know her. She may grow to like you and you may get another opportunity to ask her out.
* If she said she was busy to your first offer and you get a similar response to your second date option accept it as a rejection and move on. She is probably trying to be nice.
* Think of subjects to discuss on the date in advance. Good ideas include stories about you, things you want to know about her, family and common interests.
* Do not ask a girl out over email or by instant message.
* Do not use a cheesy pickup line!
* Don’t worry about small breaks in conversation as that’s normal. But if it lasts an excessive amount of time, or she is giving you nonverbal queues that she wants out of the conversation, then politely end it.
2007-12-04 22:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by dark_fairy260 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
before asking a girl out, think first. Do you think she will say yes? What are the chances? If you feel that she will say yes, go for it! dress in something that makes you look good, do your hair nice, and wear a nice smelling colon and have a breath mint before talking. Make sure you do it at a private moment, like after school, you can meet up with her, then start talking and asking questions, to start a conversation. walk and talk. then somehow pop the question.
If you dont like this method, try something different like asking her over the phone, through email, text. I recommend not writing a note, becuase she might not take it seriously or show her friends.
2007-12-04 22:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by achistayfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say, on aiesheh's advice: It probably is a good idea to have a nice smelling colon, or at least one that didn't smell noticeably bad, but I'm not sure it would be a great idea to "wear" it. Even if the consequences weren't fatal, having it out where people can see it is probably a bad idea.
2007-12-04 23:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by Tony Camonte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not shy and got balls you can straight up ask her... YOu can either do it str8 fwd or you can make it interesting with a cheeesssyyyy line but make sure that she knows that you are just joking but at the same time would like to know her better... good luck
2007-12-04 22:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask the girl out based on how you're feeling [not just her]. if you have a nice new outfit on and you're feeling good, you've been having a nice day and all that, you will naturally have confidence and she'll sense that. also..humor is good, but it is not as strong as wit. wittiness is like a serious mysterious humor...wayyyy better. trust me.
2007-12-04 22:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by kingkenny313 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find the right moment when you both are either alone or with a few friends that you trust, ignore your rapid heart beating and just ask her if she would like to catch a movie sometime or go out with you :D worked for me once i actually didnt say anything becuase my mind jumbled up the words so i sounded like a spaz but she thought it was cute and ended up asking me the question :P
2007-12-04 22:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by sean c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try "Would you go out with me?".
2007-12-04 22:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by Bijou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋