She has lied to me about nothing at all. Said she called but it didnt show on our phone.Ask for baby sitting help. I blew off the nephew to help her and she didnt call to cancel. Dismissed me from my own son's room after she lied about the reason she wanted to visit the room. She and her sister blocked me from going into the babies room after she bathed him. I was made to stand in the hall outside of the bathroom after his bath. Threatened to move to Albany. So I said goodbye and my prayers will reach her and the baby.(I didnt want to appear hurt)What's a mother to do?
2007-12-04 14:15:02 · 4 answers · asked by Angel G 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like she is wanting some space from you and if she's feeling that way you need to consider that maybe you are trying to be too involved. You need to stop looking at her as your 'son's baby mama' and start looking at her as his partner and mother of his child.
Who's home are they living in? If it's yours I can see you feeling upset being 'blocked' from rooms. If it's their home you have no right to any of those rooms unless they invite you to them. I hate for that to sound harsh but I have a MIL who feels since she is the 'mother' she has the right to walk in without knocking, browse all through the house, and thinks because she is hubby's mom that she has a right to be a part of everything single bit of our life.
Try giving them some space. If they're bathing the baby tell them you'd really enjoy helping. That way if you have been a bit...(I don't mean this to sound harsh) pushy they have a way to politely decline, and there's no way they could take that as you saying or acting like you can do it better.
If the sons partner is sharing the room with the son then I'd say that's their space and stay out. If it's their home try not to follow room to room. That can feel smothering to a new mother. I know you raised your son but sometimes we forget what being a mother to a new child can feel like.
As for the caller Id. I'd never use that to disprove someone who says they called. I've had 4 different ones and each one has missed calls that I know in fact were made.
If you're hurt just leave till you calm down. Anything you say in the heat of the moment will most likely be seen as a 'guilt trip' or 'mad ramblings'.
I obviously don't know the entire situation but it would seem you are very judgmental of her. Most disagreements and drama can be chalked up to misunderstandings and miscommunication. I suggest setting down with your sons partner and expressing to her that you want to be a good granny and be helpful. Tell her if you have overstepped your bounds or offended her that you are deeply sorry and would never intentionally do so.
Sometimes the hardest thing for moms is to stay out of it. When they ask for advice, give it, if the don't ask then bite your tongue. The next hardest thing is apologizing even if we don't think we did anything wrong. I would seriously try to stop seeing her as 'baby mama' and start looking at her as a daughter in law. She is your sons partner.
Best of luck and congratulations on being a Grandma!
2007-12-04 15:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this your first grandchild? It sounds as though, perhaps, you want to be more involved in the baby's life that his mother is ready for. Take a step back, give them all more space both physically and metaphorically. You don't have to move to a different city. Just visit your son's family for agreed times, so that they know you are coming and how long you'll be staying. Also ask them what part of the parenting you can be a part of. If not bathing, perhaps feeding? Good luck.
2007-12-04 14:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by mz112ungu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you a guy or a girl?
You said whats a mother to do then talk about the baby's mom?
Someone is the father and it isnt you if your a girl.Are you the daddy?
You said you were born under the same "sign" so does that mean you're a liar like her?
Signs dont mean anything, its compatibility and what kind of people you are.There are good and bad people born under the same "signs".
2007-12-04 14:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Son's baby mama? WTF is that? Your son has a baby that has a mama? Is that the same thing as a baby daddy?
2007-12-04 14:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by Joey12_001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋