Have you ever met a guy and you were not attracted to him, but you gave it time and then it worked?
I was hooked up with this guy through a friend. The thing is, is that I am not attracted to him. Has anyone been hooked up with someone where you were not attracted to them? How long should I give it for him to grow on me. I just don't want to make any bad decisions and not give him a chance. I just don't feel like I could ever be with him. I know that looks are not everything. Has anyone ever been in my situation? This guy is totally different from me. He smokes and drinks and I don't. Oh...man I hate the dating scene.
2007-12-04 14:14:25 · 15 answers · asked by mistypisces 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-12-04 14:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by benejueves 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two kinds of attraction. The immediate attraction, and attraction that develops over the long term as you get to know someone. Immediate attraction is often based on chemistry and physical attractiveness. I think you should be willing to give someone a chance even if you aren't immediately smitten.....but..if they have serious personality or behavioral characteristics that you find repellant (like smoking and drinking) it is probably best not to become involved. There are always more fish in the sea.
2007-12-04 14:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't physically attracted, but I decided to give him a shot. He was kind and attentive. We would stay up all night just talking, most of the time not even realizing it had been all night until the sun was peaking over the horizon. We went out for quite sometime and then one night when we were at a bar he was wearing a cowboy hat, cowboy boots, and big belt buckle singing along and dancing along to the rap song that was playing. I found myself admiring him for that and wasn't the slightest bit embarrassed. I realized that night that I had fallen in love.
Well long story short, we've been married for just over two years now and are expecting our second child together. We still talk til the sun comes up and laugh like there's no tomorrow.
Good luck... who knows what tomorrow will bring with the sun.
2007-12-04 14:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Gryph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actual charm is merely the 1st ingredient that commonly brings 2 human beings jointly yet fades in time. needless to say there is a few reason which you somewhat % to get to appreciate him greater helpful and supply him an excellent gamble. possibly that small voice interior is telling you that he's specific. i'm not sure that the smoking and eating ingredient is extremely appealing and could finally end up starting to be to be an argument yet while he's a advantageous guy and not a under the effect of alcohol, provide it an excellent gamble. specific, it does take place. He may be an invisible gem. i could say 3 dates could provide you greater to bypass on. i'm no longer asserting you desire to be waiting to bounce his bones on the 0.33 date, merely that i could wish for some genuine connections. you will understand if this is taking place. Take some time. If he's powerful to you this can be the initiating of a superb relationship or in basic terms a great friendship. the two way, this is a superb ingredient. If no longer, you will quickly understand and have no regrets later. stable success.
2016-09-30 21:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by woodell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like your complete opposite. Don't let him grow on you.
I mean if YOU knew him, it'd be a different story. For example, my boyfriend and I started going out and I wasn't really sure if I liked him as anything more than just a friend, but then I realized what a great guy he is. Something like that could constitute as growing on me, but not in a way that could get you attached to the complete wrong person.
If hesmokes and drinks, dump him. That's just harmful in general.
2007-12-04 14:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your really not feeling him, I would just tell him. It's probably not worth your time if you feel this bad about it. And yes I have been in your situation. We were together for almost a year untill I realized that I wasn't in love with him and never was going to be. I had to break his heart. He still can't get over it.
2007-12-04 14:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i know exacty how you feel, you see i have been in the situation you are in many times, ok what you should do, is break up with him. i will not grow on you. everytime you see him you will be more and more unatraccted to him, you see everytime you see him, you will get a bad feeling in your stomache, i know you dont want to hurt him, but thats the best thing for you. you will never be able to be good freinds if you dont get it over with so go for it![good luck] (best answer)
2007-12-04 14:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its going to work if your not the slightest bit attracted to him. If you like his personality and you guys can have a blast togther then give him a try but if he isnt even a cool guy kick him to the curb.
2007-12-04 14:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like you know what you want but you still don't know who you are, perhaps don't know what can attract you in a man. Leave that man alone, don't waste his time. You still have a lot to learn about yourself.
2007-12-04 14:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by MC Kwek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... but then that passed and I realized he was an idiot. I dumped him a month after we started dating. Best thing I've ever done in my life.
2007-12-04 14:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask youself if u think he is not the one? left him, better to get hurt than later
2007-12-04 14:19:18 · answer #11 · answered by Yee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋