Just trying to get some opinions since my boyfriend and I are considering it.
2007-12-04 13:54:31 · 5 answers · asked by Cocoa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe I should have worded my questions differently, I want to know from people with EXPERIENCE, some of the pros and cons.
2007-12-04 14:07:41 · update #1
I test-drive the car before I make the down-payment.
Unless you have traditional/religious prohibitions against it (that you deeply agree with) then the question of co-habitation can become one of pragmatics.
Divorce is EXPENSIVE. And in the US, it's a seriously legal pain in the @$$.
Therefore, IMO people should live together for awhile prior to signing the marriage documents. It's the only way to find out about the things that really matter. Are you compatible in the home? All the habits, the behaviors that cannot be changed will show up. While there are some that can be put up with for the sake of love, there are others that cannot. Is he gonna do his share around the home? Can you handle it when he takes a nasty dump in the bathroom? Can you give each other the personal space when needed?
No doubt about it, co-habitation is the only way. It ain't gonna magically change after the wedding, that's for sure.
2007-12-04 14:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by sappho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work if both people are mature, employed and able to contribute to expenses, and understand how to settle disputes. You should definitely discuss such things as how expenses will be paid. Plus if you decide to lease an apartment, buy furnishings or other major purchases you need to determine who will receive them should you separate. My daughter has been living with a man for many years, they own a home, retirement policies, and have planned wills etc. You just have to make sure you plan ahead.
2007-12-04 14:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Playing house before marriage (if you're considering that) can be disasterous. At the same time it can give you a good look into the future between you two.
My advice, is tread carefully if you go through with it.
2007-12-04 13:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by Myself432943 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a christian and I believe in purity until marriage. Cohabitation just causes temptation. If you have already had sex, it doesn't matter, you shouldn't have sex out of marriage! That is why I believe that if you live with someone with the opposite sex, it will cause temptation. So don't do it girl!
2007-12-04 14:03:06 · answer #4 · answered by likelove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immoral.
I'd only do it if I were legally married to her!
Sorry, I find the idea disgusting.
2007-12-04 13:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋