okay so this guy i have had a thing for for the past year...we recently had sex..and he broke up with his girlfriend around a month ago...and he knows ive liked him..and so last night he told me that he just had sex with me bacuse he thought it would get him over his girlfriend and he would start to like me..well i told him i didnt want to be even friends with somoeone that would doo taht do me..and he has been one of my bestfirneds for a whilie..and hes begging me to giive himi another chance and he will prove it to me that he cares and he needs me as a friend...what do i do??
2007-12-04 13:21:00 · 19 answers · asked by foxy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say yes. Everyone makes mistakes. You knew he had a girlfriend that he had recently broke up with, and of course he still had feelings for her. It was definitely wrong for him to use you, but it sounds to me that you enjoyed it. So just chalk it up, and be his friend again. I wouldn't suggest you to have sex with him again any time soon. In the future who knows what will happen Don't throw away everything and regret it in the future.At least he is man enough to admit he was wrong and wants to make it up to you. Give him another chance, but guard your feelings. Good Luck!
2007-12-04 13:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by jacqueline b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can learn a lot from a second chance. I sure did. If I hadn't of married Ray the second time, I would have always wondered if there was a chance we could have made it work. We divorced after the second marriage also. But now we are good friends, and we know that we are definitely not meant to be married or lovers. Now it is never an issue. I learned a lot of about communication and about what I am really looking for in a mate, and also about things that I need to work on if I ever decide to get married again. Our son who is 14 has even said that he was glad we tried again, but that we sure fight a lot less now that we're not living in the same house. :) And he is right. His father is very much in his life, but my son is not forced to suffer through our doomed relationship.
2016-05-28 05:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by shannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are going to like my response but I hope you think about it seriously.Did you sleep with him before or after he broke up with his girlfriend? If you had sex with him before the breakup, then it shows you did not care about her feelings and only cared that you have liked him for awhile. If it happened after the breakup, then you knew you could be a rebound gal and he may not really love you.In this case, all he did was tell you the truth.While you did not say how you guys got to the point of having sex(did you discuss being boyfriend and girlfriend,your feelings for each other and so on ), you are equally to blame as him , maybe even more, because it could be argued that you took advantage of him when he was feeling low.Anyway, he wants to remain friends with you and has apologized. Unless you like liars, are just mad at yourself, or no longer want to be friends with him ,I suggest you guys sit down, have a talk about what happened, decide what type of friendship you want to have, and start in a new manner. But do not end it because you slept with him.
2007-12-04 13:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he should have had sex with you (not that YOU should have let him, or anything), and i think you should save sex for when your in a serious relationship, and you know that person loves you and only you. If you trust him (which i'm guessing you do) wait maybe a half a year into your relationship to start having sex with him, and make sure you know him before you trust him with something like that.
2007-12-04 13:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jess_Ica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok really i was in the same situation at one time....but ithink you should give him another chance,. maybe he really does care for you and maybe he didnt mean it like he said ....guys do that sometimes.....the only bad thing with the whole thing is ....hes one of ur best friends...... and i noe you have probley thought about this but what if it doesnt work out and u lose a friend......but if you really like him and he really likes you then there shouldnt be a problem
2007-12-04 13:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by jennarenee504 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one who can get him over his girlfriend is him he needs to accept fate and not ruin a friendship in the process if this the hardest thing he ever had to deal with in life he needs to consider himself lucky cause it could get alot worse
2007-12-04 13:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to be just friends, but give him support. help him deal with his break-up as a friend because if you do begin another relationship you will always remember and be hurt by what he did to you even if you forgive him. I hope this helps.
-akneitz
2007-12-04 13:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He used you for sex and was stupid enough to even tell you so. There is no relationship no matter how much you want it. You deserve better. Put this behind you and never go out with him again either.
2007-12-04 13:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by Julie H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop the sex for one thing. If he really care for you he can do without sex. Next drop him. It just don't sound right.
2007-12-04 13:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Timelord 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple fact that he told you he wanted to do that with you to get over her shows he is NOT over her- cut your losses and stay friends if you have to have him in your life- no more goodies for him though he blew that one... ;) To thine own self be true!
2007-12-04 13:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋