i met a girl at a party, we made out a lot,she was my first, so she is a bit important to me,i got her facebook.,...i was in contact with her through facebook. she seemed interested cuz she's always like " aw" , " you are so cute"...after 4-5 days i said i want to see you again and she said she would love to...the day after, i said to her if saturday is fine but she said "sadly im busy" i got her phone#...the day after i called her after i got off college and it was her answering machine and i left a msg. i said choose b/w sunday and friday,i can get off work earlier if you want ...but suddenly she stopped talking to me...well i didnt want to sound like a desperate guy so i didnt talk to her anymore until 2 days ago when i was on msn and she bacame online and she started talkin,i talked to her like i dont care at all and she was like" im soo sorry i lost my cellphone and i was so busy that i couldnt send you any msg and i feel so horrible" and we talked for like 2 mins,and that was it.
2007-12-04 13:15:26 · 32 answers · asked by Ali 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
now i dont know what to do...should i believe her or should i move on ? she is very important to me thu...but sending a msg on facebook doesnt take that much time ? should i give her another chance?
2007-12-04 13:16:05 · update #1
Wow. This is something that I typically see GUYS do, not girls. You sound like a caring guy, who is about being honest, not playing games. Bravo to you. Unfortunately, YOU are rare. How great would it be to connect YOU with one of these nice girls who was a victim of this apathy also.
.....I wish I could take my own advice on this also, but frankly, your good attitude and deeds deserve to be recognized by a girl who appreciates being treated well. If this girl couldn't give a minute of time to you (now) how committed to you is she as a friend, a confidant, a potential girlfriend, etc.
It's almost like saying "if you don't care...then forget you". We chicks are sooo emotionally tied to what our men do and say and their body language that if she is so distracted and not into the details, perhaps relationships are not top on her mind righ now. She sounds a bit focused other places, which is not a slam to you, but is just a way to say it's not a good time for her. You can still have feelings for her, but since it was your first....get on out there and meet another cute girl who actually WANTS your attention. Good luck.
2007-12-04 13:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She thought you were getting too needy and attached so she cut it off for a while. But then when she thinks you dont care she wants you again like a never ending cycle. Just act like you dont give a crap about her, dont call/text/im everyday let her be the first one to make a move as far as communication goes. for some reason this drives girls crazy with passion until they get like 26 or so.
BTW what idiot loses their phone especially girls who use them constantly? That was a horrible lie on her part
2007-12-04 13:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by Big Boss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She only talked to you on msn for 2 minutes after she said that? Pffft I would move on.
It's hard to move on after you've made out with them, I think making out first is a little fast. It serves people better if they talk to the person first before kissing them. In my opinion.
Anyway, you sound like a great guy, you should have no problem attracting someone else.
2007-12-04 13:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by kim s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Triple H, I find him a boring wrestler who needs to get out of the business, he doesnt have many moves either less than cena he only married stef for 12 titles, he needs to be a midcarder, he takes the title from more awesome wrestlers like edge or randy orton, he was better as a heel but i just dont like him all round as a heel or face, he is also rude to other wrestlers in the back and hates better wrestlers than him randy and edge, he loves vince and if he didnt do stef he would be a washed up nobody
2016-05-28 05:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chill pill. She is telling the truth about her cell. She wouldn't start talking about 2 u otherwise. Now the whole first make-out-thing, generally not a big deal. After you get 2 know her mention it and she might think its cute but you also don't wanna come across as clingy. As for moving on, doesn't seem like you are in anything to move on from, you just met a girl you like. Your not married geez!
2007-12-04 13:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by dudet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow - that's a tough one.
I'd love to tell you to hang in there - girls DO lose their cell phones sometimes - they can be busy - perhaps she had prior commitments Sun and Fri.
But I really get this vibe that you've fallen by the wayside in her books. If they want to talk to you, they'll find a way. They'll Facebook you or call your number somehow - someway. For the girls, it's about communication. If you are foremost in their minds they want to talk to you. They WILL find a way to talk to you. Or they will get their friend to Facebook you or whatever ... just any which way to get a message to you.
So - Move On!
(You _can_ leave the door open so that if her behaviour and her communication changes you can hook up again - but her communication and behaviour says you are not important)
2007-12-04 13:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First: Do not expect too much, she probably did not return your feelings.
Second: Avoid the itching 'what if' and give her another chance. I know at least one person who indeed would not have time for a message occasionally, lol, so it might have been.
Just, as I said keep cool and considerate. Keep ready to move on. Maybe it works, maybe not, and when she has no time next week, ask her directly, if she has no answer, tell her good bye.
~Neila~
2007-12-04 13:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sometimes when I do that, I ignore the guy until I feel guilty about it. If the answering machine is working shouldn't the phone too? Well, still talk to her and if she still doesn't talk to you for a while longer and doesn't say mcuh stuff about her life and all, then you should definitely move on. If she is being very open to you, ask her to hang out once more and if she says she's busy then she's probably not interested.
2007-12-04 13:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah i would give her another shot, dont come off to desperate though. but when it comes time again to make a day to hang out, pick a day for both of you, dont be nice about it just do it, women love it when guys make decisions. talk to her online or send her a message on facebook and open up communication again then some how lead into when you two are going to hang out again...hope that helps
2007-12-04 13:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definately get to know her better before getting in a relationship. She could be using you, or she could have actually lost her cell! Give her a chance and if she seems 'ify' lose her. I understand how important she would be to you, but I was in something of the same situation only I actually fell in love with the guy and we had plans to get married, then later he broke my heart by telling me he was using me for sex the whole 4 years we were together. Hope this helps! :)
2007-12-04 13:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jaclyn23232323 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋