Hi. I have been feeling terribly depressed lately. Down to the basics, I can't find a guy who will actually love me, not just being a complete jerk, rude, bossy and won't actually care for me. I have been having alot of stress with acting, my career, and being well, lonely.
I am completely depressed, I feel terribly lonely. What can I actually do to figure myself out, and be happy again?
Thank you so much.
2007-12-04 13:09:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been thinking for a while, I may adopt a child who is between 12-15.
I don't know why, but it feels like this is what I might need to do.
2007-12-04 13:15:51 · update #1
I do realize I need to be very stable to adopt a child but...
I just feel If I adopted a foster child, I feel as if I could give him the loving he deserved, it might just bring the light into my heart.
2007-12-04 13:23:17 · update #2
i agree that you should get out and do what YOU like. the guys will follow if they have the same interests.
all the guys in church groups are married, though, and sewing clubs are filled with women in your situation.
have fun acting. you might get some cute guys signing autographs? if thats what you do, i suggest you go out on stage and do your best!
get a mani-pedi, get a new CD, and cheer up. It'll all work out.
2007-12-04 13:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jess_Ica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like the others said, you need to be happy in yourself first. Until then, you won't be able to attract the right kind of man. Neither will you have enough to give a child, so don't go there! Kids cure cluckiness, but they don't cure anything else. They can bring the greatest joy, but that is balanced by bringing the greatest frustration and sleep deprivation. Read "The Mask of Motherhood" as you need a clear picture of what motherhood is really about. Most women go about looking as though they can cope with everything, but believe me, it gets pretty messy when no one is looking!
Cracking the Love Code by Janet O’Neal is a fantastic book. Do your best to get your mitts on a copy and work through the exercises. In the meantime, you really do need a hobby. Join a club of some kind. Sport, craft, volunteering, whatever. I'm in the SCA, that's a good place to meet nice guys. The whole chivalry thing is encouraged. http://www.sca.org
When you have made yourself into the right kind of girl, you'll find the right kind of guy. No point him showing up in your life if you aren't ready for him yet. Get yourself into emotional shape. "Mars and Venus on a date" is another good one to read.
2007-12-04 21:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Helping other people always makes me feel better when I feel a bit depressed. If it is severe I would consider seeing a professional if I were you, but if it's just the general "blues" which is what it seems like, the try and not dwell on the things in your life that are not going very well, think about all the things you do well, and try not to compare yourself to others. Adopting children is a great thing to do, but I think it would be wise to wait until you're more emotionally stable due to the huge choice that is, but I'm sure you already know all that.
2007-12-04 21:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
,Hey I saw your avatar. You rock.Depressed,take a look in the mirror and see what do you see.You might be depressed now, but you have a lot to be and you Will because you;re a winner.You look good.I know girls and you are perfect for someone. If the guy is not there, he will be. Trust me.Stop with stupid ideas about life and losers. Be a winner.Take my advice.Have some fun. and let the rest take the place into the whole life.
2007-12-04 21:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mario Vinny D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join some club, church organisation or sporting groups.
There are lots of things in life other than sex.
Why not nurture a hobby?
2007-12-04 21:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't find them, let them find u.....u've been thinking of the right guy too much till u get depression....why don't u join some clubs, hang out with your friends n' enjoy life like any twenty-something does??? flirt a little......guys would find u attractive when u're confident about yourself....good luck!!
2007-12-04 21:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by Marijuana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess wait for the right time when you arn't sad and if you find someone you might like go for it mabey make friends first.
2007-12-04 21:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by Dragon-Rider 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i've been feeling depressed today, i like was in tears in math class.
and i still don't know why.
try something that will distract you from that stuff, like relationships, sex, whatever.
anything public? help at the library or volunteer for something useful.
anything to get your mind off of it =)
2007-12-04 21:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a hobby and learn to like yourself. Hard for a guy to like a girl who doesn't like herself.
2007-12-04 21:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by comfort eagle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
take a holiday and relieve the stress, once u hav a peace of mind you would be amazed at what u couold do
2007-12-04 21:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋