I'm the 23 year old daughter of very protective, somewhat overbearing parents. Last year I had planned to move out, but they talked me out of it because my Dad is like paying rent is "flushing your money down the toilet".
But I'm tired of living under their roof and being away from my boyfriend (the Army moved him to Texas). I've decided that this summer I am going to move to Texas.
When should I break the news to them? I'm so afraid they're going to talk me out of it!
2007-12-04 13:07:29 · 6 answers · asked by Original_Syn 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When you are preparing to move. If your boyfriend is in the army take into consideration he'll be sent out for months at a time and you'll be down there alone.
I would want to be close ot him as well and maybe you can do a temp move and just be there when he is state-side and go home when he leaves.
I have friends in the army and their GFs and Spouses end up moving back home until they come back because they don't like being by themselves.
Either way just talk to them about it weigh your options and go from there. Your parents are experienced and sometimes they can be right about things. Just remember they want what's best for you even if it's not exactly what you want :)
Good luck!!
2007-12-04 13:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's hard for your parents..it was hard for my mom when I got married and moved 3 miles away! Look, no matter when you tell them they are going to try to talk you out of it. I would tell them once you have a plan like are you going to get a job, maybe you can start looking into places that you can work, or go to school and tell them something positive and it also show intuitive that you made a choice and looked at your options before hand.
2007-12-04 21:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by Loli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation as you. Except that I was nineteen at the time. My parents were extremely overprotective and to make it worse they said the only way out of their house was through marriage! Any ways I was tired of living there and I decided to tell them that I had my own values and that i made my own decision and that i just didnt agree with some of there rules. I told them my plans and showed them that i was serious. They finally accepted and moved out. The important thing is to leave on good terms with them.
2007-12-04 21:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by cristina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an adult at 23 years old, and really need to set personal boundaries with others, and do what you feel is best for YOU...
There is no need to feel guilty or as if you are abandoning your family... because that's not true...
Tell them now, and if they try to "talk you out of it", let them know your mind is made up and that is your plan....
They will get over it.
2007-12-04 22:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you MAKE UP YOUR MIND that U will move no matter what is said?
2007-12-04 21:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by Flowers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you get ur place then tell them
2007-12-04 22:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by hs1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋