Do you feel close to your step-kids or distant? Do you ever feel like you've lost yourself in the new family?
2007-12-04 12:53:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When I became a stepmom to my husbands two kids they were almost grown. They resented anyone in their dads life and we had a rough couple of years, but they are off on their own and one is a parent now so things have mellowed. We are not the best of friends but we can talk and do things together.
2007-12-04 12:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been so awesome for me. I'm bio mom to two daughters and step-mom (I hate to even type that) to a daughter and son. It's been seven years. The first two or three years were difficult as his kids were raised very differently from mine. We had a lot of work to do in establishing a different set of expectations in our home for them, but it has been successful.
I love them and every minute I have with them. I don't feel lost, but it hasn't always been that way. It takes a whole lotta time and a whole lotta proving yourself. Mostly proving that you're not interested in replacing their mother. Kids do a lot of things that aren't nice out of misplaced loyalty to their mother. You have to recognize when they're doing it and know that it has nothing to do with you.
Patience, love and discipline. These are the three words I've lived by. Believe me, with the support of your husband, it WILL get better.
2007-12-04 13:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was both positive and negative. Initially it was negative because my step-daughter (as do many children) perceived me as an intruder and felt that by accepting me she was being disloyal to her dad. During this phase, I responded only to the behavior I was attending to, and not her reactions to my intervention. Ultimately she and I became very close...from diapers to now...she's now 15 years old, and is as precious to me as my own biological children. That's more positive than I could've ever imagined.
2007-12-04 13:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My oldest son is my stepson, but you'd never know it. He's just as special to me as my two sons and gets just as many hugs. You only lose yourself if you allow it. Bring two families together is hard and takes alot of work, but when it does work, all you've gained is more people that love you.
2007-12-04 15:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 04:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was married to my ex husband he had two kids. I felt very close to them I raised them as my own for 8 years. I haven't talked to them in 2 years. It is sad and hard for me.
2007-12-04 14:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by Chasity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm close to my step-dad, but not my step-mom. My step-dad always treated me better.
2007-12-04 12:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋