My girlfriend of 4 and a half years (who I was engaged to be married to) decided she didn't love me anymore and dumped for a bisexual mexican in September. I've met and dated four others for a short time since then, but it seems like all anyone wants me for is a friend, nothing more. The girl I'm supposedly dating now won't make anytime to see me, so I imagine she's going to dump me too, and it hurts. So girls I just want to know what is wrong with me!? Sometimes I get so lonesome that it literaly hurts inside. Like real pain, sometimes I wish I could just die from it already. Anyway I was hoping somebody would visit my Myspace page (user name Captain Brian H. Vond III), or my even just my Yahoo 360 page if you want, and tell me what the heck is going on with me. Am I just ugly, or what? Please I help me.
2007-12-04 11:25:07 · 14 answers · asked by Brian V 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I looked at your myspace page and your not ugly,but really that doesn't matter to women that much.My husbands face is disfigured and I couldn't care less.Girls care about the person you are.You may still be on the rebound which usually causes one of two things,being to clingy or being not really focused on the girl your with. Either way girls know when your not all the way in and it turns us off.I know how lonely it can be when you don't have someone,but my advice to you would be to stop looking for someone to complete you and complete yourself.You have to be able to be happy alone before you can be happy in a relationship. Find some friends to help you with the loneliness, try a church group or some poker tournaments.(i know they sound like very different activities but I'm going off of what your myspace page says).Once you have a good group of friends and your all happy and confident girls will come to you.Like I said my husband has some disfiguring scars on his face,but when we met he didn't need me he was perfectly content on his own and he had a light that drew me in. I've dated some really good looking men who we're still in to someone else and they don't make it long. Good Luck and find time to read your bible every day it will give you strength.
2007-12-04 11:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by melissa f 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, you like WWE Smackdown and Star Trek...could be a little hard to relate to. BUT! There are other things you could check on:
1) Do you try to be romantic? Maybe you naturally act more friend-like than b/f like and they can see you as more of a friend. Be corny. Wink at her. Flirt, but don't get too serious too soon. But have fun and let her know you're interested in her as a woman.
2) Are you too demanding as a b/f? Do you demand a lot of time (daily phone time, 100 texts/day, cuddle time, tv time together) with your SO to feel like you're in a healthy relationship?
Just keep searching inside yourself for these answers. Also, I read once that you should "be the person you hope to attract." In other words, start acting like the kind of person you want to be around (whether that be athletic, easy to talk to, funny, kind, street-smart, etc.).
2007-12-04 19:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by 7531 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not ugly. You might be too clingy? And because of that you might be choosing the wrong girls? You need to pick someone who shares the same views in a relationship as you. Seems like that would be the problem. Some girls dont' like to see vulnerability and a weakness in a guy. Clinginess is a big one. You feel pain? Loneliness hurts but its true, you will find someone. Don't be needy, girls certainly dont' like that either.
2007-12-04 19:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by Quentpoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not in the cards for you to be with anybody. It seems to me that you wanna be with somebody just for the sake of being with someone. I just got out of a year and a half relationship and although it may not have been in the same amount of time you were with your girl...the pain is pretty much the same. It gets easier being by yourself though..you learn alot about yourself and it makes you a stronger person. I'm a believer in fate and everything happens for a reason..trust me. Hopefully soon you will find happiness.
2007-12-04 19:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by litdei19872000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its not because your ugly its just none of those women could see what a good person you are. Sometimes people get so lost in labeling others and not making the time to get to know the real you. Just because they couldn't see how much you cared for them doesn't mean you lack anything or did anything wrong. It just means they weren't ready for someone to actually love them. Don't beat yourself up and don't worry someday you will find someone who will be there for you like your there for them. You just have to be patient and wait you know sometimes things just happen you can't always make things happen right when you want them to. I hope you find someone.
2007-12-04 19:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Alex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww, you're not ugly. You just don't have any luck, but take it one step at a time. don't go into another relationship because that's where you will be back again. talk to a girl that you like and take it one step. before you know that special girl is going to be there for you, then your heart will be healed! So take it one step at a time and you will be back to normal. Good luck and hope I helped!
-Jake R's Girl Forever
2007-12-04 19:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A guys view here.
OK, first of all..don't whine...ever, second--confidence..got have it. Show a little interest and back off and wait..almost ignore..not quite though. Be patient..not clingy..show subtle interest at first and see what happens. Not to just one girl, but several that you are interested in...not to be mean but to see who shows response. Then up your response and wait again... not long now!
2007-12-04 19:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by nc_dilligaf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're too clingy and you just need to girl your girl friend some space. Just give her some time and a little space. Good luck
2007-12-04 19:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by sddq_nn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I found you attractive and you look outgoing... I believe your just not meeting the right girl. Don't date a girl that your not happy with, that be a waste of time right?
2007-12-04 19:38:11 · answer #9 · answered by greeneyeslady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you know a lot of inconsiderate girls, or your lack of confidence is showing. If you expect a relationship to go somewhere, it's more likely to.
2007-12-04 19:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by BrownSugar811 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋