My parents raised me in their church that says no dating until you're 16, and even then no steady dating...only groups. My parents KNOW i dont believe in their church. Then theres this wonderful guy ive known since i was little, and we found we care about each other a lot and started going out in october. We are so close now, and i cant imagine not having him in my life, but the problem is my parents just found out about it, and i dont turn 16 until march. Now they're trying to separate us and i dont know what to do. I've never felt such a oneness with anybody, and now i feel like i'm being ripped in 2 and my other half is being sent through a blender. Since i still live under my parents roof i have to abide by their rules, and i understand that...but how can i make them understand that their beliefs are not my beliefs and that i really do care about this guy? They're convinced its puppy love but they dont even take the time to let me explain it to them. What, if anything, can i do?
2007-12-04 11:23:58 · 3 answers · asked by 90176 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
By the way...he's a senior. That means by march we'll have only 2 1/2 months together before he graduates and i dont know whats going to happen after that!
2007-12-04 11:25:02 · update #1
Compromise with your parents. Remind them that age is not the ultimate determinant of maturity - you won't be a child at 15 and suddenly an adult the next day at 16, and that you can't prove how mature and responsible you are unless they are willing to put you to the test. Compromise by agreeing that you will only date him in groups for now; invite him over so your parents can meet him and his parents. Be totally honest and open about your contact with him,
Personally, I agree these rules are unreasonable, and that rules should be altered to fit the individual. But I also understand your parent's concern for your well-being, and that their experience gives them a different perspective.
2007-12-04 11:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop blaming this on religion. I am not religious and didn't raise my daughters to be and they still weren't allowed to date until they were 16.
You are a 15yr old girl dependent on your parents for home, health and education. You aren't able to survive on your own, and you are involved with someone 3yrs older than you. So while you are in high school, growing up, he is about to move ahead to his future. Your futures are not compatible.
But if you are so immature to think that you are above your parents rule and you don't need them, and so selfish to believe that ruining your life AND the life of someone you say you love, then at least keep in mind that if this is meant to be it will be. If he is your soulmate, and you believe you are meant to be together, then nothing, especially not alittle time, will keep you apart.
2007-12-04 11:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok well one day when they are in a good mood and they are both together at the same time you need to be like "ok i need to talk to yall about somethin really important and i need yall not to say anything untill i finish sayin what i have to say!"
you need to tell them of all the things yall talk about that are important and how he understands you and it is more than puppy love!
2007-12-04 11:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋