Why do women find it funny when a man is abused by a woman?

Question

I was in a relationship many years ago where this girl I dated was always angry. Although it never really hurt that bad to get me upset she would hit me a lot. It really wasn't the physical stuff that got to me so much of the mental things she did. She stole my drivers license and got a cop friend of hers to put a bunch of speeding tickets on. I was arrested for driving under a suspended license 3 years ago and still to this day haven't gotten it fixed. She would tell me all the time that no other girl would have me and that I was a 2 out of 10. What sucks is she was right. I never found anyone after her. I never told anyone but one close friend of mine. She not thinking I haven't told anyone else told her friend and now all the girls I know make fun of me. I don't really find it that funny. I feel sorry for my ex more than anyone. I did some research and found out that half of spousal murders are committed by wives? How can girls find this funny?

Answer 1

I want to tell you first of all, that I find it very repulsive that a woman would abuse a man. I was a domestic violence advocate for 10 years and my biggest clientel were men. Lets break all of this down a little bit.
Why does a person abuse? Simple...to gain control and out of the lack of security in one ownself. A person that abuses another person is in complete control of their actions. Dont believe me? Think of this one/...Where does the abuse take place normally? In seclusion for the most part. Verbal abuse is sometimes 10 times worse than the physical abuse because it makes a victim question themselves and their credibility, and if they are acceptable to people in society. Victims of abuse can be put into the same category as a Jewish victim in a Nazi camp. Read the history on that one. They were constantly verbally and phyisically abused, their abusers brought starvation sleep deprevation, and fear of death upon them on a daily basis. How do the two compare?
A victim of abuse is afraid of going to sleep, and sometimes may be awakened by an attack,,,,aka sleep deprevation, a victim may be told they are fat and ugly, aka humiliation, a victim may be told that they do not fit into society,,,,verbal and emotional abuse, a victim may have their posessions taken and destroyed, leaving them feeling exposed, insecure and unfit for the world they live in.Avictim may have their life threatened and told "if you leave me, I will kill you"
Why would a person bring this upon other people? 98% of children that grow up in a domestically violent home will become either a victim or an aggressor.
Why would people laugh at men> SIMPLE< They do not understand that it takes a STRONG mand to not attack the aggressor back and even a stronger man to sit there and deal with such an abusive individual.
Society looks at the male population as strong fighters that women are normally weaker than. However, after putting everything into perspective and looking at the abuse for what it truely is, it takes the STRONGEST MAN to put up with this type of abuse from a woman.
The reason you have not grown in a new relationship is because you truely believe that she was right and that some other woman wouldn't want you. You question your own strength and manhood after so much time of being abused. Go back to when you were secure with yourself. Why does she get to decide if your worthy or not? You will have another great relationship when you believe in yourself and heal from this sad and repulsive situation that you have been through. On that day, you become a survivor of Domestic violence and not a victim. We can stay victims for as long as we want, but it takes a great deal of strength and endurrance to become a survivor. Good luck to you. Your an amazing man and you deserve nothing less then true unconditional love. respect and understanding in your future relationships. Reach inside yourself and set those boundaries and decide what you are willing to have in your life. Good luck my friend.

Answer 2

Any girl that finds your situation funny is just as demented and nasty as your ex. And not to worry. There is someone out there for you. It sounds like her constant insults have temporarily screwed up your confidence and self esteem. And most females can sense when a man is uncomfortable in his own skin.

You must be a sensitive, loving person to put up with that kind of cr-p. I admire you for not reciprocating. Take a good look at yourself and realize that her comments do not make you who you are. Love yourself, get comfortable being alone and quit looking. You will find that the right girl who will appreciate you, will walk right up to you one day. How do I know? When my ex dumped on me after 15 years, that is exactly what I did. And the perfect man for me walked right into my life.

Bottom line, you cannot truly love someone else until you are comfortable with yourself. Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't matter if you are a women or man abuse is bad. It is not funny at all. If thay think it is funny stay away from them. I hope that you will try and get help to deal with this. It will make you stronger as a person. I no what it is like to be abused and people thought it was funny. Thay don't think it will happen to them. Please find some new friends to talk to. Good Luck.

Answer 4

A lot of women are amused by weakness. Don't put them all in the same category though. How many weak women do you see on here who can't seem to leave a cheating husband or the lazy mate who beats her and won't get a job? When bad things happen to men, some women laugh. When bad things happen to women, some women sleep with the bad thing that's happening to the woman. Makes no sense.

Answer 5

prostitutes hate men and by making them pay for what they
want most, sex they are getting back at all men, any man
that ever hurt her. maybe she was raised in an abusive
household and takes out her animosity on you.
i guess they think men usually hit women and when it is
vice versa it is rare and funny.
women who think it is funny when a man gets abused by
a woman have got a problem. dont care what youe ex or
her friends think of you. put all of it behind you and move on
develope some self esteem and dont believe the noncense your ex told you. good luck.

Answer 6

No your not right babe you will find some one & some one who deserves you,don't you take any notice of that worthless little cow,you stand proud,she was unhappy with her self so she took it out on you,which is totaly,totaly wrong & as for your close friend,well as the saying go's 'your closest friend is your worst enomy' because you tell them your secrets,I'm sorry to hear what you've been through & I mean from the bottom of my heart I hope that things get better for you.

Answer 7

Girls don't find it funny. Some people are just messed up in the head. I'm sorry for what happened to you. And she deserves to be punished just as a man would be.

Answer 8

It is because of old school television drama shows. It is been imprinted in our minds when a man hits a woman, he is a villainous crook who screwed up the balance of society and we want to instinctually kill him because in old school movies, when a man hits a woman who is chivalrous and pure, she falls down the stairs and dies. So instinctively we think that if women get hit that they will mysteriously die, so we want to kill the perp before he kills her. When a man gets hit, we instinctually think he is one of the womanizers from one of the James Bond or horror movie flicks where they hit girls and we think instinctually that she finally hit him back making us instinctually say "yeah-kill that womanizer(even if he is not a womanizer or is a gentleman). What can I say, instinctually in television and movies we put ourselves in the shoes of the main characters in which make us think they way we do about the world. It is a hidden evil we must ignore and be one step ahead of.

Answer 9

Not many women find abuse funny, but in general I think women find physical abuse funnier because so often men are the ones abusing women.

Answer 10

I should probably feel ashamed for this...but I can't stop laughing!!! OMG, man up!

Maybe it's funny because we don't expect men to ALLOW a woman to abuse them like that. When I get out of line, my guy gently puts me in my place and I love him for it. Wuzzy men are just funny.

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After reading some of the later answers I am even more appalled! I'm not laughing because I think abuse is funny, I laugh because I think it is pitiful and NO ONE, male or female should "put up" with it. It does not take a strong man or woman to continually subject themself to abuse, it takes a stupid (yes, I said stupid- as in lacking common sense), weak, and pathetic one. Anyone who STAYS in an abusive relationship is not strong - they are weak and they don't have enough respect and love for themself to want better.

Did you read what this guy said? She told him he was a 2 out of 10 and no one would ever want him and he accepts that as true. If you don't pity and baby him, I won't laugh. I understand that sometimes there are special circumstances where children are abused, or spouses are held against their will - and I would NEVER laugh at people in those situations. But to the men and women who are more than free to live but choose to stay in an abusive relationship because they can't do better or they "LOVE" the other person...puh-lease! Open your eyes! Open your ears and hear me continue to laugh! Your partner is probably trying to knock some sense into you. LOVE and RESPECT YOURSELF!