I am in love with this one guy... we never went out and I wouldn't say that we even have any kind of relationship, but I still love him and he said that he doesn't even like me... What should I do? Should I first try to become friends with him? Or just let go completly?
2007-12-04 11:10:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you have is not love...it's what they call "puppy love". You don't know him...true love is much too complex than what you think you have.
At any rate you must move on. Come on...can you afford to dedicate such an important time of your life to someone who does not even appreciate you as a human being? Start loving yourself first. Dig deep inside and regain your dignity and poise...and most of all your self respect. He is only one person. There are tons of boys out there. Surely you can overcome this minor setback. It's a matter of mind over matter. Concentrate on thoughts that makes you feel good. Refuse to allow him to enter you mind. It will be difficult at first but with a little determination you will surpass this and become a better person for it.
You can do it. "To thine own self be true".
2007-12-04 11:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you two never began a real relationship may be kind of intimidating to the guy if he knows how strongly you feel towards him. My advice would be to take a step back for a while and create a friendship with him (they say the truest lovers were best friends first!).
Try learning about activities or bands that he’s into so you have something other then relationships/dating to talk about when you see him. Don’t make him the center of your world either; let him understand you’re interested by keeping eye contact when you’re talking to him and smiling but excessive texting/calling/ect. might scare him off. Basically be yourself and make yourself approachable and fun to be around!!
I hope this helped!! Good luck!!
2007-12-04 11:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly I was in the same shoes as you were over the summer. We chilled alot over the summer and even kissed at one point. Turns out that he doesnt like me in quite that way but I convinced myself that I could be friends with him after that. It made everything even more complicated. I took a break with him; hang out with other guys and now 4 months later, I am seeing someone else and for once,I could honestly say that he's my friend. I dont have any feeling for him anymore besides total friendship and would be more than happy if he got a gf of his own. I think that you should give yourself time to heal from it. It's so difficult for women (and I dont mean to be so sexist) to separate our feelings and emotions apart so try to stay away from him, forget about him; move on then may be in the future salvage any kind of friendship or relationship you can have this guy; assuming he's worth the friendship. Best of luck to you.
2007-12-04 11:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people just fall for other people, and it doesn't make sense and its only one-sided. Its called unrequited love and it is a horrible feeling to have.
You may want to let it go. It sounds impossible (trust me, I know) but the feelings do fade. A common theme is, after they did, you wonder why you even liked the guy to begin with!
And hey, who knows. Maybe giving him some space will make him miss the attention, and maybe he'll realize he likes you after all...either way, a win-win situation ;)
2007-12-04 11:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by AngelUndercover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably wont be able to let go completely... atleast not right now. i wouldn't pressure him even into just a friendship because i think that'd make him feel under pressure so don't try any moves or anything just try and get him off your mind. im still in love with my ex but he has a new gf and doesn't like me at all. i've just tried gettin him off my mind. good luck
2007-12-04 11:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by HcBasketball#15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but I'm in the same boat...in love/lust with someone I can't have. You have to totally let go and move on. Pretend he is there, but he is not there...got me? It's so hard when you like someone and nothing can happen. You just want to be in a little cocoon with them and learn eachother inside and out...but no, no such luck. Be your own cocoon and move on. You are strong.
2007-12-04 11:14:58 · answer #6 · answered by lovebird 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trying to be close enough to be "just friends" would be painful - don't abuse yourself. There will be times in your life when you are "smitten" with intense feelings for strangers, it can be hard to cope with, but they will fade. In the meantime, realize that part of love is wanting the other person's happiness more than your own - so you need to want him to find someone he is interested in and you need to move on.
2007-12-04 11:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you never really even went out, you do not know him... the relationship is all in your mind...
So let it go...
Don't you deserve more than a fantasy?
2007-12-04 11:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by astutewoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's the same as me. I was in love with this guy for 4 years and I moved on, but we're friends (I think). try to be friends with him.
-Jake R's Girl Forever
2007-12-04 11:16:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need not to sweat the small stuff really because if you let him go and its meant to be then it will work out trust me you dont want to hang on to someone who really isnt all that into you you will get hurt and no one else
2007-12-04 11:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋