I can't decide if I should hurt him, or the girl that has rocked my world. So, do I stay with the man who provides for me, and has been good to me, and be grateful and confident about the longevity of our relationship, or do I go with the wonderful girl who made me stray away? It's not right for me to have these feelings about someone else; so that must mean I'm not in love with him anymore, right?
2007-12-04 11:00:28 · 19 answers · asked by Pandacat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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I have been on good terms with the fact that I am bisexual since 7th grade. So, after 6 years, I think the exploration issue has lot its sparkle.
2007-12-04 11:14:49 · update #1
you're already out of love with him. and you're falling for this girl. so i say break with your boyfriend. the only reason why you want to stay is because you dont want to hurt him. and seems like you know he'll always be there, so you know you're set. but i think you should go for the girl. its not fair to your guy. even if you stay with him. you're still going to have feelings for this girl. just tell him. that its over. it happens all the time. he'll be upset, but if he really loves you then he'll let you go and let you be happy.
2007-12-04 11:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by j yanks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old saying "The grass isn't always greener on the other side" is not too far fetched in this case. You need to ask yourself if this girl loves you more than your guy. Will your guy risk his life for you...will the girl? Yeah, that's a little dramatic, bt you get the picture.
If you think the guy loves you more than the girl, then invest in a toy or something or find some other means of excitement and include him in it becasue this could just be a phase and you don't want to loose a good thing over a "phase" (been there, done that). Better yet, you need to ask him if he's ever had fantasies of you and another woman. That's also an option. It sounds to me like he's there for the long haul.....is she?
Ultimately, if he's so good to you and such a good provider, etc., then you should stop disrespecting him behind his back and love him enough to let him go and let him find someone who can give back to him (emotionally) what he puts in.
2007-12-04 19:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking yourself some questions- are you truly in love with this girl or is it just the excitement or infatuation of being in love again? Sometimes, you can pass through an initial phase of love which will feel as if you're "falling out of love" but still care for each other which is just that you guys have matured in your relationship. However, if you truly love this girl and want to spend time with her, then I wouldn't hurt your boyfriend any further than you have to.... obviously, he's putting a lot of effort into the relationship. Just take some time and think over some things and have faith that you'll make the right decision.... make sure that you can live with the consequences of your decision as well. Also another note, there is nothing wrong with having a homosexual relationship as long as it's about loving and respecting each other.
2007-12-04 19:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by cantabilemusic4fairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Per se, it doesn't mean you don't love him anymore. It may mean you want something new in your life, however. Do you use "falling in love" to feel alive? When you're not "in love" do you feel bored and in need of a "fix". That's being a love-junkie, and it's every bit as much an addiction as others. I don't recommend staying with someone just because he provides for you, but if you care for him and respect him, why walk away from that? More importantly, you seem to have some gender identify issues that need to be addressed. If you're gay, admit it and stop being dishonest with yourself and with him.
2007-12-04 19:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it means your not in love with him, but maybe that you just want to explore other feelings...this is a lot to think about considering your also a female and this girl that has rocked your world is *new* are you sure you've fallen for her and want to change your "partner" to the same sex or just curious and exploring?
2007-12-04 19:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this new girl really rock you world, or is it just waking you up to trying something new. You didn't mention something, that is are you male or female, are you Bi-, Les or Gay. Your problem doen't read as a normal m/f relationship. What you have to do, no matter what your answers to the above are, you have to follow your heart. Just don't throw away a two year relationship to a curiosity fling.pp
2007-12-04 19:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You arent married to him, and since you have crossed that bridge, your either going to have to decide to have a normal life with a man, or flip flop from one gender to another for the rest of your life.The fact that you cheated on your b/f says that you have nor moral standards when it comes to being faithful.
2007-12-04 19:07:36 · answer #7 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl welcome to life . We all have changes . It would be in your best interest to search your heart and see if you still love him . If not leave but if you do then talk to him this may just be something that will pass or stay you don't know . Don't destroy one life to start another just to find you where wrong . Talk to both of them and then decide .
2007-12-04 19:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by knightrunner13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy sounds pretty boring it sounds like u want something new but u can't convince yourself to leave him and suddenly this girl rocks your world to the core. so it's obvious the guy is getting boring so i advice u to go with the girl because your clearly not in love with him because u clearly won't be having these feelings.
2007-12-04 19:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by wings of an angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with the boy and don't ever think about the girl
hey you are a girl .. and you don't have to be gay because one of your friends made you you stray away ..
2007-12-04 19:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by wild_memos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋