URGENT!!! my bf is a little carried away?

Question

me and my bf are dateing and we were talking on msn one day and he said when are u going to marry??
and i said when i am maybe 20-30
and then he is like "who do u think u are gonna get married too?'
a i said "i dunno ?"
and he said i know who i am gonna get married...to u!?
and i was shoked there 4 ever.
and i love him and all but i am not one of those girls who love him to wanna get maried to him .....?
i just dunnno what to do or sayyyy
plz help....and my heart is telling me that it has NO NO NO NO idea!!!!????

i am 19!!!! and we only use msn cuz we are far away and i dont have enough mins on my phone!!

Answer 1

you're not 20 or 30 years old! You still have time. I know that you're not ready for marriage. so tell him how you feel about that and relax.

-Jake R's Girl Forever

Answer 2

I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 6 months (I'm 21 for the record). Before we even said the "i love you" for the first time, he talked about marriage. It's a perfectly normal thing, in my opinion. It means he's responsible enough to think long term & it also means he's "sizing you up" to see if you're "the one."

I wouldn't freak out - the way it sounded, it was one of those cute remarks that you laugh away, not a proposal. Also, if you said you'll marry when you're "20-30" then that means you're not even 20 yet, correct? Is he your age or a few years older? If he's 15, then he's just being silly, teenagers always feel so much more strongly than normal ppl (LOL). If you're 16 and he's 21, then (1) you need to stop seeing him unless your parents are aware of the age difference!! (2) he's starting to get to the age where marriage & children & settling down is natural - the 'internal clock' happens in men too.

I'd say, let it slide as his own way of flirting & letting you know he cares about you & thinks you're special. If it comes up again, give him something concrete to think about "not until I'm finished with college" or " I want to work on my career first". If you don't mind marrying right out of high school, then just tell him you want to make sure you found the right one.

If you find it uncomfortable, then that def means you either don't love him or you're not ready to think of him as a potential suitor. If that's the case & he brings it up again, tell him HONESTLY that you think he's moving a little too fast.

Also something to note: I'm not saying your boyfriend is a bad guy, but a lot of guys try to get girls into thinking they're in love so that they can get them into bed. If you know he's not like this or if you've already slept together, then he might just be teasing/flirting. I wouldn't freak out if it's only been mentioned once.

Answer 3

First off if you and your "boyfriend" are using MSN as a medium for talking to each other then my advice to you is GROW UP! Well then I see that you say "when I'm 20-30" which means you really have NO CONCEPT of love or the reality of which marriage brings. Stop being immature and just live your life. See what happens in the next 5 or so years. Don't be one of those women who go to a bar to meet men and then later in life wonder why they have a drunk for a husband.

Answer 4

If you're saying you want to get married when you're 20-30, I'm guessing you're 15 or younger. I'm assuming your bf is around your age as well, LOL. He's an immature little boy. Don't stress over it. I have friends in their mid 20's who don't know who they are going to marry. You're saying you won't get married until 20-30? I think you should change that to 25-35. Anyone that gets married under 25 at least, has a bigger chance that it won't work out because you haven't experienced life yet to know what you want. You need to date a lot to get to know people and find out what it is you like and don't like.
I wouldn't worry about this. Just tell him that you don't know because you're to young to be deciding about marriage right now. The only thing you plan about is finishing school and starting your career. The thing is, he's to young and immature to understand this but, even if you did tell him that you want to marry him, he's to immature to know any better to not believe you. Any of us reading this that are NOT in high school and are older (I'm 31), would believe that you guys are going to get married even if you both said you are. You guys are still really young. Just tell him you're not thinking that far yet, that you're just enjoying your life NOW, in the present. That's it.

Answer 5

honey, you need to take it slow. he probably thinks that you want to get married to him. after all, haven't you ever fantasized about marriage before? anyway, just explain to him nicely that your just not ready to think about that kind of stuff, and when you are, you'll give him a heads up. tell him that you still want to stay together, and that you love him. if he is truely the kind of guy you have made him sound like, he will defenetly understand. hope this helps. good luck =]

xoxo
felicity♥

Answer 6

I dont think you luv him i mean it just may be that he does want a serious relationship with you...that doesnt mean he
really is gonna try to marry you...hes just telling you that he
would like to have a female like you in his life....you actually
should be gratefulll cause most guys just wanna have sex
and leave......hes trying to give you your worth....so dont think to much of it ......but if its a no no then you just want a play boyfriend and not a good dude so let him know....

Answer 7

Tell him we are both still young, I enjoy being with you but we have a lot of years ahead of us, and none of us know what the future holds, tell him right now you just want to study thinking about HS and college.If your heart is telling you no then follow what your heart says.

Answer 8

Tell him that you don't think it's the right time. Maybe you can talk to him about not wanting to think about getting married right now and want to focus on your relationship instead.

Answer 9

don't worry about it. you sound pretty young still, so you would freak out by this. he's just saying things because he wants to be romantic, and he didn't know how you might react. just go with the flow. don't worry about, you have plenty of time to think about it and don't take this a permanent thing and you have to oblige to answer yes i want to marry you too, but its just one of those things that guys like to say just to make you feel special because they care about you.

Answer 10

first of all how old are you if you are 1-15-16 you might be too young to get married