I have a really jealous and possessive boyfriend, and I would never think about cheating on him, ever. But lately he's been doing things that get under my skin and irritate me. And I notice when he does this I'm more prone to flirt with this guy I know who has a crush on me, and even though I know it's going nowhere, that for me at least, it's just safe flirting- I feel bad. I have a naturally flirty personality so I don't say things I wouldn't normally say but I do go out of my way to strike up a conversation with guy B, or any other guy than my boyfriend, when the boyfriend pisses me off. Is that flirting still innocent or do I cross a line. Can one innocently flirt?
2007-12-04 09:33:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look inside yourself. Flirting is different for everyone, but you need to check your motives. You're flirting to spite your b/f, and that's the bottom line. You need to work things out with him and then maybe you won't feel the desire to flirt with this other guy. And a side note: it's not really nice to flirt with a guy you know has a big crush on you and who you aren't interested in. Just keep that in mind.
But really focus on letting your boyfriend know how you feel. That's the root of the issue.
2007-12-04 09:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by 7531 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend doesn't like it then you should probably stop, especially since the other guy likes you. By flirting with him you're giving him the false impression that it's okay to flirt back and forth when it really isn't. Whether your boyfriend irritates you or not, flirting with a bunch of other guys is not justified.
2007-12-04 09:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you "know" its not going anywhere, the guy may not be thinking that. It also depends what you are saying to these guys. Sounds like you're boyfriend makes you mad, and you do it just to annoy him. Yes, you can innocently flirt. Should you? No. It's called leading guys on.
2007-12-04 09:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just want to get a rise (an angry one) out of your bf by flirting with guy b. You like that your bf gets jealous. Admit it. That flirting might be innocent, but you are using guy b and other guys to get your bf jealous. So uncool.
If you bf irks you that much, break up. Then you can flirt all you want.
2007-12-04 09:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't done anything wrong but remember flirting is only innocent to the woman. A man takes all openings as serious when it comes to a lady he finds attractive.
2007-12-04 09:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Fafeom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure some people still find flirting cheating in a way, it hurts thought when your bf is flirting with other girls and your by him so
2007-12-04 09:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can innocently flirt, when that is your general personality, and it is perfectly natural and acceptable.
what you are doing, however, is flirting out of spite. that just really leaves a bad taste in my mouth. you should quit or break up with the dude. let him have some dignity. sheeesh
2007-12-04 09:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by DocLove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you can innocent flirt but you should tell him that it's bothering you and yes have that as a flirting thing to I do it not even knowing but sometime I really get into it and it gets preaty funny. but it's not right to do that on purpas just to iratet your bf!!
2007-12-04 09:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a such thing as inocent flirting when you are in a relationship with someone. It sounds like you are playing games and trying to get guyB and *** whoopin
2007-12-04 09:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you can not flirt innocently because it leads to problems. If you love him like you said then you will not flirt with anyone at all.
2007-12-04 09:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by sddq_nn 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋