I've been wanting to move out since I was 25; I'm a 26 year-old-male. I'm the youngest of 3, and I make a good living, but my parents won't let me leave.
I rented a house 5 months ago, but my parents made all of this drama, so I haven't even spent one night there.
For the past 5 months, I've been paying the cable bill and internet service for both my house, and my parent's house. I've been paying rent, phone and utilities for house I don't even live in.
I brought the subject again this week, and they started yelling and sutff, and told me if I left I could never go back, and a lot of bad stuff.
So far, I've only bene using the house for to hang and bring friends over. I' really sick of my 10:00 PM curfew.
I really want to move out, but my parents make it really clear that if it would be under bad terms.
What can I do?
2007-12-04 09:17:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Obviously, your parents don't have much of a life, and are probably living vicariously through YOURS.
Please, take care of YOU and move out... they will get over it eventually, and while they are stewing and steaming over it, you will have some peace and quiet in your own place!
Feeling guilty is for criminals. It's not a crime to be an independent young man. If it is, the authorities need to start arresting a lot of young men!
take care of YOU.... that's your best bet!
2007-12-04 09:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are few reasons why your parents been doing this for you. Firstly (usually this is their reason just to cover-up the main one), because you are the youngest so they have to look after you (despite of your age, and you're a grown-up man now). But the real reason, they wanted to hold everything you do so that you'll take care some of the household expenses and the like.
You talk to them and explain you need to move to the other house you've been renting. At your age, you need privacy and can stand on your own. Tell them not to worry, you'll be there any time they need you.
Don't make yourself guilty whatever decision you make for yourself. You are entitle of it.
2007-12-04 17:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by jmjm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them. Your 26 and are a responsible adult. It should be your choice. When they were your age they might have felt the same way-or already moved out. If you already have a house, you shouldn't be wasting it by not using it. Promise them you'll visit. If they get mad, it will eventually blow over. Good Luck!
2007-12-04 17:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe buy them a self help book about cutting the cord. You have to stop this! What happens when you meet a woman and wanna get married? Your mother will put her through hell. I'm sure your parents will get over it. Its better to see you less than never right? So I don't think they will hate you forever. (Just a little while)
2007-12-04 17:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by SandraAmanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move and move fast. Your parents are controlling you. You will never live a normal life under their thumbs. For your own sanity move out. Believe me your parents will eventually come around.
2007-12-04 18:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by pammi716 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all their not the ones 'making' u guilty your the one thats letting yourself feel guilty, Your a grown man why the heck do you put up with this..just leave & stop speaking to them..stop being such a wuss.
2007-12-04 18:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first impression is that they want you there to help with the bills and they are mad that you wont be paying the bills anymore. You need to live for yourself. you can't be worrying about upsetting them anymore. You are 26, it is time to break away. If they get mad, let them, you need to live yourself for you, not your parents
2007-12-04 17:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by j_ace84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK - how old are you?????? When are you going to be a man and stand up for yourself?
MOVE OUT!!!! so your mom will cry for a day and they'll be mad at you for a week. So what? It;s time you moved out!!
Just 'cuz they want you to be 12, you don't have to act like it!!!
Be a man, guy!!
2007-12-04 19:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by serene e 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK you are 26 right. then grab your stuff, your balls include and get out of their house. if your paying all their bills then why would they want you to leave. you are a grown man , do what you want.
2007-12-04 17:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by I love my DIRTBIKE! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they need your money to help them out. ask if you gave them 100.00 a month to help out if they would let you go and be a man. if you dont need their help and can make it on your own then they really have nothing that they can hold over your head. tell them its time and its going to happen but you want to know what you can do to make it easier for them.
2007-12-04 20:35:35 · answer #10 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋