2007-12-04 09:16:57 · 22 answers · asked by MrRight 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It depends on the situation...
I went to an Ex's wedding earlier this year. We were friends before we dated and we broke up on good terms because we felt our relationship was better as a friendship. I knew a lot of the people attending and had a lot of fun. That was an easy decision and i still see the groom and his wife every now and then for drinks. That said this guy is a friend for over 15 years and was a boyfriend for under 12 months!
I was also invited to another ex's wedding last month. This guy was abusive and we broke up on bad terms. I had had nothing to do with him for years (since we broke up). He found me in the phonebook and came to my house with an invitation. He invited me to rub it in my face that he was moving on. Pity i didn't care because i live with my fiance. Even though i still kept in touch with a few people who were going to the wedding i didn't go because i did not want myself to re enter that social circle, even for one night.
So it depends on the situation, if it feels right and you are happy that your ex is moving on go to the wedding, if you want nothing to do with the person again and don't want to be a part of one of the biggest days of their life then don't go.
The wedding i did attend i brought my fiance to and he had met my ex on previous occaisions. He said on the night when someone tried to start a fight with him "I know they dated before but seriously - He's getting married to someone else and she has come here tonight with ME!"
2007-12-04 10:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that ex's are ex's for a reason. I was uncomfortable when my ex showed up to my cousins wedding with my whole family there. We broke up 2 years before and I just couldn't understand why he would even do something like that. But then again my mother and stepfather went to my fathers wedding when he got remarried because they are still friends...If you're still friends thats fine but Im not friends with any of my ex's (im engaged to be married right now, never married before so when I say ex I mean ex boyfriend)
2007-12-05 00:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step dads ex said we could not have my brothers in my parents wedding if she did not get to come. I think that it was inappropriate that she was there. Why would you want to see the person you loved at one point in your life making a promise to someone else. I think that it made her look like a idiot. I feel that the only reason she was there is to get a dinner out of it. You take a big risk by having them there what if they try stopping the wedding or do something like?
2007-12-04 12:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a good relationship with my ex but I still don't feel I would want to be at his wedding to someone else other than me lol.
2007-12-04 12:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is there are a lot of people out there that aren't fully grown up yet....Especially if you have children involved...you HAVE to be an adult and respect their feelings. I get along great with my X's fiance...she is good to my kids and when her child from her first marraige comes when the X's brings the kids back home, I envite him in to the house as well, offer him cookies, a pop or what ever...the kids should never know distain between parents!!! It is not any fault of theirs and they still love both of you. So, I would say, if the X's new spouse to be is ok with it...GO, and smile all the while, congratulate them and go home!
2007-12-04 13:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by Rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex remarried a year ago & I didn't attend the wedding. It would have been too awkward for me. Even though we are divorced, it would have brought back a lot of memories. My ex, his wife, & I have a really good relationship. It has made it easier on our sons & their families. We can get together for dinner, birthdays, etc. & get along.
2007-12-04 09:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! It will be awkward enough being at the weddings of my children with my ex there!
2007-12-04 10:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If I were asked, and I'd know other people there, I would go. If I was known also as a friend, yes, but if I was only known as the "ex" and that was my only tie, then probably not.
2007-12-04 09:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have previously, because i am still friendly with all of my ex's. Now, probably not. My fiance doesnt grasps the concept of friends after breakup without desires. For his comfort level, i probably wouldnt attend - i would ask if he wanted to go, read his reaction. If he was totally cool with it... yeah i'd go!
2007-12-04 10:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by loki_only1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person. If it was someone I truely couldnt stand then I probably wouldnt. If it was someone I broke up with but was still friends with, I would go.* Haha =) Well, good luck!
2007-12-04 09:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋