i really like this guy but i am to scared to talk to him. i keep thinking that if i say something it will be stupid and he will never want to talk to me again. i am really shy and it is extremely hard for me to talk to hot guys but i really want him to ask me out so i have to talk to him but i cant i have no idea what to say. help me?
2007-12-04 09:11:29 · 27 answers · asked by xoAmanda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, this is quite simple. Im a guy, and ill tell you my personal opinion:
When i meet a girl, i think that when they get shy and red, i think its cute. It means that they care what i think. If they have a convo with me, im thinking "this girl is cool". Think of an excuse to go and talk to him... Biology help if your in school, math help,or so on.
This is a big mistake a girl usually makes. Guyes do act different around other guys. So wait until you see him alone. Like in the halls (again, if your in school) or maybe walking down he street. But if you do talk to him around other guys, and hes an ***, dont take that as a first impression.
Hope it helps!
Nick
2007-12-04 09:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, men dont like insecure women unless they are bad guys.
Second, you only live once, do you want to be 80 and look back and realize you acted cowardly most of your life and only because you didn't have enough confidence in yourself.
Last, next chance you see him, walk up to him, say you noticed him and just wanted to say hi. This will show him you are confident enough to say hi but not the pushy overbearing girl.
If you just can't walk up to him and say hi, try it on a not so hot guy first, he'll love the attention and it will get your confidence up to talk to the hotties in the world.
Some of the most "not so hot" girls have ended up with the hotties because they are secure and confident...work on being those two things and you'll get almost anyone you want!
2007-12-04 17:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by Miss mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to feel confident about yourself. What you are doing now isn't really good for yourself. Just relax and play it cool. Talk to him like you would talk to any other friend. It doesn't have to be complicated or anything like that. Find out what he likes the most whether food or sports or whatever and go from there. If you think that you can't do that then the guy isn't worth all that trouble.
2007-12-04 17:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww...puppy love. It's cute how all these kids are too shy to talk to each other. Yet, it causes problems for them...go figure.
Simply, would you rather risk looking foolish by saying something odd or being the fool that can't talk? I'd rather look like a fool than be a fool, but that's just my opinion.
2007-12-04 17:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Gray 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say or do nothing then nothing will happen.
Just talk to him, who knows after a little conversation you might find out he's that great. Of course the two of you might hit it off. Part of what any guy finds desirable in girl is her sense of confidence. Be cool and take the lead.
2007-12-04 17:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by brianjames04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the very same boat as you and I just talked to him while in studyhall since my friend talked to him. Now he talks to me sometimes and he asks me to borrow supplies... I think I could be gettin there with him since one of the first few times we talked he said "what do you want to talk about?" I bombed that question but I survived and have talked to him several times since. Now he has a girlfriend he likes alot so now I'm screwed. Just find a way to talk and don't get too nervous be nonchalant about it! Go for it!
2007-12-04 17:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by Hannah Texana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to know his friends and try and learn about what he likes so you know what you're gonna be talking about when you start the conversation. also you need to drop hints by flirting and just hanging around him. if you say something stupid it doesnt matter cuz most likely he'll just laugh and you can laugh too he wont avoid you just realize you said something stupid and say wow that was me saying stupid stuff and laugh he'll join in. dont worry you'll get more comfortable around him and you will overcome your shyness and ask him out! yay!
2007-12-04 17:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by Aurora 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't get him to ask you out. You ask him out but first get to know him and most importantly be yourself! don't put on a act! belive it or not guys are even more terrified to make the first move, if you show him that you can make the first move he will think that you're brave. he might have feelings for you he's just as terrified! Take a chance! You won't regret it!
2007-12-04 17:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by LLe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is a particular movie you haven't seen, but think you would like to see, ask him if he has seen it or heard anything about it. Tell him you haven't heard if it is good or not, but it sounded good in the advertising.
This gives him a golden opportunity to ask you to the movie. You haven't committed yourself to anything except you want to see a movie.
2007-12-04 17:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go up and talk to him and be yourself even if he doesnt fancy you he will be flattered.
He will eventually ask you out when he gets to know you better if not you should try yyour luck!
2007-12-04 17:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by Martin M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋