My mom has been in and out of the hospital for drinking related issues. She just went back in for DT's. She knows she has a problem but refuses to go to rehab because she had a bad experience before when she was forced to go. She just says she's depressed and will go to a psychiatrist, increase her meds, go to meetings, etc. But this has not worked for her in the past. She needs to get help or she will die.
2007-12-04 09:11:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Get yourself to al-anon, that is the best thing. They will be able to help you more than you know.
I know it's not you that has the problem. They know that as well.
Try it. I guarantee it will help.
2007-12-04 09:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by Taryn 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is to me. She is drinking every night and it is effecting her relationship with you. It is her problem. There are reasons she is where she is with the drinking. I don't know what to tell you, you can't change her. You will never be able to get away from the abusive, hateful words that come when a person drinks too much. Try to not drive with her when she is this way. It will only upset you and make your driving worse. It is hard to teach a person to drive. The not letting you talk thing, well this is something all parents and teenagers go though. Try asking her if you can practice in a parking lot without any other cars. She is nervous about your driving. Maybe in a controlled, defined area she would feel better. Be careful as the years go by not to repeat the patterns of drinking and smoking yourself or worse, date or marry someone who does the same things. Those habits don't look as ugly when you first start, they get worse each year that goes by.
2016-05-28 04:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad was an alcoholic he is no long here I can't say it was the alcohol that kill him or the 3 to 4 stroke or the smoking. I was young when he died. But it hurts because the drinking change him.
I used to go out drinking a lot when I was younger until someone tried to rape me. If it wasn't for a friend I think I would have been killed by this person.
So all that I can say now is when people get pissy drunk around me I get away from them I don't want to be in that world ever again. Sometime you just have to walk way an let them help them self. Some time they just don't want help.
2007-12-04 10:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be terribly hard for you to go through. I hope you have somebody there with you to ease your burden, a good friend or a family member.
I know you really want to help your mom get better and you can do that by supporting her when she finally decides to get sober. It's very common for alcoholics to try and fail and try again and again, so maybe this will be the time that she really makes it. I truly hope so , for both of you. She is lucky to have you on her side.
The best thing you can do now is, like others have mentioned, go yourself to Alanon meetings so you will really get some support and understanding of the situation and the disease. There you will find the answers that perhaps you may not have been able to find here.
2007-12-04 09:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your situation because it is a very serious problem. In this case i think the whole family will need help because you would have acquired also other dependences (affective type) related to the disease.
It's famous "The 12 steps's program" by Alcoholics anonymous (The Bill's book). Or psychologists ... but difficultly you can with this situation alone and less if she doesn't see the problem or doesn't want to go out of it.
In this case you will have to think about help for you in order that her problem doesn't drag you with her and you fill not with lacks, you must be strong.
I wish a lot of luck and many patience you.
I pass you the motto to you of Alcoholics anonymous and of many people who has tried to go out of addictions.
It looks like a nonsense, but if you think it well, it has good sense and very much in front of each decision of day after day (for all people). Especially before the "why yes or why not" of one drink more .
I wish you a lot of luck.
2007-12-04 09:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by Desah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the son of an alcoholic mother, I can relate to what you are going through. My mom has been drinking for over 40 years and has probably been addicted more then half that. I've tried numerous things in the past such as throwing the alcohol away, hiding it, running away, telling her it's going to kill her, you name it I've probably done it. In the end I've had to realize that she doesn't want to help herself, but still knows that I love and care about her unconditionally. Yes her addiction irritates me and I get upset at times, but only she can get the help that she needs. It's sad but true.
2007-12-04 09:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by Viking Bastard 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best is to tell her that you are worried about her and only want the best for her.
Reassure her that you are THERE for her and would never let other people know anything she feels uncomfortable with.
DO NOT force her, it will make her drink more b/c now she thinks she has screwed everything up!
Have her go to AA with a close friend of hers, or you can go with her yourself to support her!
God bless!
2007-12-04 09:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the sad fact of the matter is, there isn't anything you can do to help your mom. An addiction is something only she can deal with, only she can seek professional help, and only she can glean the benefits available from quitting her destructive habit.
Frankly, I'd ask her if she has her will in order and does she have life insurance, because she surely will die if she keeps this up.
2007-12-04 09:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could stage an intervention. Maybe she'll change her mind about rehab if the whole family/friends come together to show her how much they love her and miss her.
2007-12-04 09:15:22 · answer #9 · answered by WT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you ever hear, you can lead a horse to water but you cant make him drink? well that's what i am here to tell you right now. your mother is not going to quit until she surrenders to the fact that she is no longer able to just put that damn bottle down without some help. first she needs to hit rock bottom.
but you know what you can do? go to A-A (AL-anon) classes so you can at least help yourself. You can do it i did!
2007-12-04 09:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunaely you can not make your mother get help. But you can get help for you. go to alanon and/or coda. It will teach you coping skills and how to cope with what you yourself go through in dealing with someone you love having a dependency problem. I wish you well and I know this can be a very difficult thing to live with.
2007-12-04 09:16:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋