My 3 year old son and I were playing the other day and I said "I love you!". He replied "love you to" so I start to ask him um do you love granny? he replys yes! I keep going threw family member and I get to my boyfriend and father to my 12 week old (still in my tummy) baby . He said yes! I asked him about HIS father who is in the Army that I divorced. He said no! His dad hasn't got to be a real part of his life since the Army he has even had to move to NY while we are in Tn. And know he is over seas and he really can't talk to him or see him. I have always told him that his father loves him just like mommy does. So where is this coming from? I couldn't hardly get him on the phone with his father to tell him hi and I love your daddy without threating him with a whooping?
What can I do?
2007-12-04 09:08:54 · 7 answers · asked by Mrs. Nesmith 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is hurt and young. He just wants his father. Talk to your ex and tell him what is going on and that you two need to work it out so your son can spend more time with his father.
2007-12-04 09:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stop pressuring your son. His father is not even there for him. Your sons not growing up with him and the truth is this is why he doesnt love his father. So you plan on forcing him too. Maybe later in life your son will learn to love his father but how can he now when dads not around. Kids dont care if youre in Iraq all they know is that youre not there taking care of them.
2007-12-04 17:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that the boy barely knows his father. I'm sure it would be hard to force a kid to love someone they don't know. Your intentions are very noble but I don't think you will be able to change that until he's older and understands more. My step-children don't seem to have this problem but they do see their fathers on a regular basis. In my own experience my mother disappeared when I was very young but after a while I really didn't want any more to do with even if she had tried to contact me.
2007-12-04 17:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't threaten a child with bodily harm because he does not wish to speak to someone... i don't care who it is... apparently, your son finds no comfort in his father, and maybe he feels abandoned by him.
keep a close eye on him, and if he needs help with this situation later, there are plenty of trained professionals who can help him come to terms with his life situation, and to understand that it's not his fault he and his father don't have a proper relationship.
2007-12-04 17:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do nothing, except if he sees his father more often. The little children forget soon the folks, they can juste be interested by those who are around them.
2007-12-04 17:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by montagne de jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could put pictures around the house of his dad, if you are not remarried. Tell him funny stories about things you and his dad. Tell him how hard his daddy's job is and why he is so far away. God bless
2007-12-04 17:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love someone he doesn't know and doesn't see. Let his father prove to him that he's willing to be a father to him.
2007-12-04 17:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋