why is my son so violent and being such a bully?

Question

why is my 15 year old son being such a bully towards my younger children and when i try 2 disipline him he verbally acttacks me he will acttack me younger children with no warning and im lost to try and stop him as he is much stronger than me but when he is on his own or just me an him or when a friend of the familey come round he is good as gold but when my younger children come home from school he will turn in to this monster and thay will do absoluty nothing to him in any way shape or form to upset him but he still attacks them

Answer 1

Cuz maybe they r gettin on his last nerve. Im 14 and i luv kids ( i wanna be a child physcologist) but i hate lil bad kids that get on my nerve! And maybe u should try whoopin him sumtimes....or takin away sumthan that he luvs like maybe his cell phone or sumthan. But if u scared of yo own child...sumthan is wrong wit that

Answer 2

You do have a problem. You allowed him to take this anger and control thing to far. He didn't wake up like this one day. He push and you didn't stand up to him. He push a little harder and he saw that he had made you blink. Then he took control. Now he knows that you are weak and will not stand in his way. Tammy is right about hormones and puberty. This doesn't excuse bad behavior. You are his mother and he should respect you as such. No matter your fear you must take back control, even if it leads to an all out fist to cuffs. It is hard for me to believe that your son would take it to this point ( If he does then call the police). I believe he is just blowing smoke, knowing you'll back down. If you stand up to him and don't blink, he will respond like a child and respect you for your strength. I know it wont be easy, but you have to take back control and take the power away from him, even if you have to have him removed from the home. This is your castle and you allowed a 15 year old brat, crush it to rubble. Grow some balls and put a helmet on soldier and get ready, "TO RUMBLE". Good luck. If he is hitting your younger children, you can do whatever it takes to protect them.

Answer 3

Send him to Maury and let him put him in boot camp!

OK, OK, so that's not likely. Try sitting him down and asking him why he is so angry, what is he angry at, etc... Instead of letting him bully the younger children, get him a punching bag to release his frustration. Also, you might want to seek professional help especially if he is violent to anyone. This is the 1st step with family violence- it leads to REAL violence and major problems in their adult life. What do you do when he "bullies", how do you stop it, do you let them duke it out on their own? Maybe he is a little jealous. Try taking him for the day to do something he is into and showing him that he can be rewarded with good praises IF he acts his age and can respect the family and everyone else. Good luck!

Answer 4

I would first say your a single mom, or the male in his life is too distant.

Also, you will get all kinds of opinion, so good luck.

Next, I think that most children, even more so for males, comes back to reward, consiquence, and need for attention. I would guess that he is acting the way he is because he is seeking the reward he gets from it (the emotional domanance) and seeking the attention.

Sadly, he has already figured out that you are powerless to change this situation. You will need to seek help externally, or tell the male role model in his life to get off his butt and start being a role model. Otherwise all sorts of trouble will come down the road, including domestic violence.

Answer 5

He is in that transition age. He is beginning to identify more with adults and is not a little kid anymore. Also, your other children infringe on his time with you. Because they are younger, you probably give them much attention when they are home. That's natural, but he may feel neglected. He may feel needed if you can enlist his help with things . I can remember being that age and my dad saying, " You know. You and I need to go out driving every night... and you need to drive. There may be the day that I will need to depend on you for help". Let me tell you... I was as tall as a mountain when he said that. And yes.. he and I did go driving every night and I will always have those memories. At first we didn't say too much, but then it became, " So, how did your day go?" Explore your options ... and spend time with him. He's big, but he needs his mom/dad more than ever right now.

Answer 6

Your son is going through changes hormonally and he is acting out to express his Independence.
I suggest you pick up the book "Bringing Up Boys."
Written by Dr.James Dobson, A well Known author and Psychologist for over 40 years. His books are in the White house library.

Answer 7

You should have the courage to stand up to your son, depsite if you fear he may hurt you. If he does you could always call the police. You should take him to church and make him read the Bible so he can learn about being a man and learn about love. If thats too much for you, maybe you can take his clothes and shoes and personal items away and make him earn them back. Parenting is hard and it takes constant hard action. Everything involved in parenting should be proactiv. But mainly stop being scared, stand for saving your sons life by being strong.

Answer 8

My daughter gets like this. You have to stand up to him. If you do, and he hits you, call the cops. Maybe he is angry that you had more children. Who knows, but you need to get counseling or something for him. I was so fed up with my daughters attitude towards everything, (school, siblings, friends, myself, etc.) She is 17 now and leaves for basic training in January. I'm scared for her but something has to change. Stand up for yourself and ALL of your children please. Good luck.

Answer 9

i would take him to a therapist and a doctor maybe he has a chemical imbalance or is on drugs. Maybe he has resentment towards them cause he want your undivided attention....

Answer 10

Have you checked for steroids?