My boyfriend doesn't understand what I want or he just not willing to give it. I've told him from the beginning the kind of closeness I want, which is to be around him a little at least every day. That is who I am, and I can't change it. He's brought up the subject of us living together, and he's even answered strangers with "Not yet" when asked if I'm his wife. Now the signals I'm receiving are saying "back off." Not only do I not want to, I don't understand what's happened. He's told me "I'm way more simple than you're think." I know that's probably true, but we had an extremely rough start, so I can't help but doubt. He was alone for a long time after an engagement ending badly, and he was planning on being alone until I came along. He dropped the L-bomb first, and he's initiated many other milestones. What to do?
2007-12-04 08:34:01 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd like to add something. The biggest issue is that I just want time with him every day. It's not really a relationship to me otherwise. I don't know how to change without being unhappy, and I'm not really sure I should compromise on this particular issue.
2007-12-04 08:44:03 · update #1
It sounds like you're pushing for some kind of deadline or conclusion that he's not ready for, even if he does care for you. How about taking it one day at a time and not being so rigid about your needs.
2007-12-04 08:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need closeness, and he senses needy and clingy....
I would suggest you talk on the phone, and text more, so that you are there more often, but not hanging on.....
Other than that, you're thinking, and analizing too much...
2007-12-04 16:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋