My girlfriend and I are both freshmen at separate colleges who see eachother a few days every 3 weeks as well as during vacations.
We recently had a conversation in which she said that she 'isn't a horny person' and that she's never been horny in the sense of wanting sexual gratification at random times. According to her, we'll start fooling around because I want to and then a 'little lightbulb' will switch on, usually after I've touched her hoo-ha. When ever we mess around, she clearly has fun, and it's not difficult to get her to orgasm, but I can't help feeling like it's a favor to me, and that all I'm doing is tickling her nerve endings without anything really occurring in the sense of an actual sort of feeling. She's never masturbated a day in her life and it seems like she just isn't horny at all unless there's a hand already down her pants.
Is she really not horny, or is she just not assertive? And does that situation generally change with age/time? Is there anything I can do?
2007-12-04 08:32:16 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She really isn't avoiding it in any respects, and has never, ever turned it down...even when it was practically every other day. Also, she's said she feels 'rude' initiating anything.
2007-12-04 10:34:26 · update #1
See here, girls just aren't as horny as guys are. We have other things to do besides touch ourselves and think about sex. Honestly, this is really normal. If you don't like it go and find yourself a whore.
2007-12-04 08:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by Couture Queen XO 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know quite a few women like this. They can do without sex. They just don't have a drive. Has nothing to do with you. If you are an overly sensual person, you may want to find someone who matches you in that respect. This is just the beginning. I have known women who are all into sex with their boyfriends in the beginning of a relationship and then after a few months they can do without it. But being a woman, I have met men like this also. I had a boyfriend I saw twice a week and the sex was great. When I moved in, he still only wanted it twice a week. Like the drive and passion wasn't there.
Good luck!
2007-12-04 08:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by Texas Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really sorry to hear...
But the others are right. Some women are just like that, as long as you aren't getting the "not interested in YOU" vibe. If she seems like she's avoiding you then I think u need to move on. Going to separate colleges is hard enough. Goodluck with that...
2007-12-04 09:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it changes. It usually gets worse. She should speak to her doctor. Most likely her hormones are a little off.
2007-12-04 08:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by Poppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋