Theres this guy that I like and he told me he liked me too but, his best friend likes me too. He says he dosent want to hurt his friend. What can I do? I mean Should I talk to his friend or should I try to get over him? I don't really know what to do.
2007-12-04 08:12:37 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being a guy I have pulled a trick similar to this a time or two. First things first, confirm that the friend really does like you, sometimes guys, including myself, will tell a girl that they like them and they do but if they get nervous they talk themselves out of it by making up a nonexistant excuse. If the friend really does like you then talk to the friend and ask him if he will personally tell the guy you like that it is ok for him to like you, if he refuses and trys to pull some "but i really like you" bull, then tell him its not gonna happen and you dont even need to be his friend if he is gonna act like that. But if the friend really doesnt like you then talk to the guy about it and try to make him as un-nervous as possible. Hope that helps
2007-12-04 08:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by drewsteriam5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. Its not good to get between two friends, so to speak, and you could end up breaking their relationship. On the other hand, the guy you like could be
'the one'.
I would advise you to think about like this. If you just fancy this guy and all you may be after is a bit of fun etc then I would steer well clear. However, if it is that you REALLY like him and its a case of you need to find out to see what could be, then try talking to his friend, who even though he likes you too, will appreciate your honesty and the fact that you value his opinion. This will be much easier than breaking up a good friendship and ruining your relationship with a good friend.
Good Luck!
2007-12-04 16:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by Smithers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy 1 = The one you like and that likes you back
Boy 2 = The guy that likes you but that you don't like
What you can do is try to talk to Boy 2 and convince him that you don't like him but rather you like Boy 1 and that you want to go out with Boy 1 but he doesn't wanna hurt his feelings, then ask him if it's OK for you guys to go out without him interfering and if he says yes and gets all rowdy, then just get over him and don't talk to either of them.
2007-12-04 16:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by naden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything and let it work itself out. If his friend likes you and approachs you, let him down nicely. Once he finds out you are not interested in him he may look elsewhere and the guy you really like will be free to ask you out. If you talk to his friend his ego may get bruised since he likes you too, and he may sabotage you with his friend. If he does approach you and you turn him down, dont tell him you like his friend. If it is ment to be, it will happen.
2007-12-04 16:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by canam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not about friends. It's about you. You decide on who you like better and that should be your choice. If you don't want to hurt any of them, you shouldn't see any of them, only as friends and nothing more. The decision is and have to be up to you, yourself.
2007-12-04 16:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there some new rule in dating that says you cannot date more than one boy at a time?
I though tthat was what dating was for, finding out with whom you want to spend your life.
2007-12-04 16:26:10 · answer #6 · answered by killbasabill 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the one that you think is the right one. Go for the one that your heart tells you. It may be hard but the outcome is usually positive. Whatever one you choose, explain to the other guy what happened and tell him the whole story.
2007-12-04 16:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by Disturbia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest to him that he talk to his friend about it, and to let his friend know that you both like each other. He can tell his friend honestly and in a straightforward manner, and that might work out fine.
If he doesn't want to do that however, respect that and leave them be. Good luck. :)
2007-12-04 16:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by JStrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should wait it out and follow your heart. Who do you really want to be with? Make yourself a list of pros and cons and feelings on each guy..then weigh out the pros, cons, and feelings. If you really don't have any true feelings for either of them, don't waste your time ruining a friendship.
2007-12-04 16:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ive Got Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should talk to his friend. If the friend can't accept it, you should walk away, you don't want to come between friends. Just remember it's HIS friend, it's HIS job to have that conversation.
2007-12-04 16:16:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋