Does it make sense for a person to say that they hate your physical actions and your mental processes but they love "you"?
2007-12-04 07:39:08 · 19 answers · asked by Eleventy 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It's not rocket science. You can hate what a person does but love them in spite of what they do. That is exactly how I feel about my wife. ;-b
2007-12-04 08:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by ♫DaveC♪♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. You can hate a person's physical action, but if you wanna love the person you kinda have to love their mental processes. At least, that's what I think.
2007-12-04 15:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by jill45690 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My brother is a clear example of that. He was a terrible teen, a terrible 20's and a terrible early 30's. He drank too much, did drugs and became a deadbeat. He stole money from us, used us for jobs and a place to live. I finally had to kick him out of my life at one point, but I didn't stop loving him. I just couldn't be around the person he had turned into. He's grown up a lot over the years and seems to be headed in the right direction. I still walk carefully and wait for the other shoe to drop when I am around him, but I still love him.
2007-12-04 19:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by mamabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you mean by "sense." I'm actually thinking of my eldest son - a practicing "junkie" whose "physical actions and mental process" are all about the next fix - and whom I love desperately all the while hating almost everything he does and thinks.
There are some things that sort of transcend "logic" - although there certainly have been noble attempts to explain.
2007-12-04 15:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by Marji 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg, an interesting question in R&S for real! Kudos.
There are many varieties of spiritual practices that advocate boundless love for all beings. Or at the least, forgiveness and grace and compassion and the like. So even if someone pisses you off, it's gracious not to engage in hatred. Anger won't hurt that other person, anyway -- it only hurts the person who's angry.
On the other hand, you kinda have to draw the line, don't you, if someone (extreme example) murders your family. I've heard of people who have actually, wholeheartedly forgiven people who committed awful crimes against them, and I think that's amazing. It's really not easy. For me this question goes right to the heart of the reasons for thinking about spiritual life at all. Sorry I don't have a very hard and fast opinion on the matter; I think I'll be working on this for the rest of my life. That's all I got.
2007-12-04 15:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by green_sprout 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have children, then you know that they don't always do what is right...sometimes because of lack of knowledge or believing someone at school who has told them a lie . You might say, I hate what they are doing but i still love them. This is what God says. And this is what Christians do. It is a commandment.
Hate the sin but love the sinner. We are commanded to "love our neighbor as ourselves" though sometimes it is not easy. No matter how angry your child got with you as a parent, if you knew that they were headed for destruction, wouldn't you try to do everything you could to change their mind.
2007-12-04 15:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to love a person and hate what they do. I'm just thinking about my ex-husband right now...
Although I see what you're getting at. The issue is what influences your actions - the love or the hatred. If you *really* love a person, then no matter how much you hate what they do, you will not behave in a hateful way, by causing them to suffer or considering yourself better than them. If you judge that person, that is not a loving act because you are holding yourself above them. If you behave in a hateful way, and claim that it is because you love them, but hate what they do, then you are lying. You do not really love them at all.
2007-12-04 15:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are NOT your beliefs, perceptions, thoughts, feelings or behavior. You are the OBSERVER of these conditioned patterns. Our ability to shift into this position - return to the authentic Self - is a matter of evolving consciousness and the experiences we encounter as children that cause us to overly identify with conditioned defensive ego.
People who say they hate your behavior/choices are either wanting you to change and be more aligned with their values, or know your authentic/true nature and capacity and are expressing that you are not living up to that potential.
2007-12-04 22:02:58 · answer #8 · answered by MysticMaze 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I doubt someone could hate every single action or belief someone else had, especially if they love the person. You have to take the good with the perceived bad.
2007-12-04 15:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by Philosophicalme 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That brings up the idea of "self" in general, upon which volumes have been written, and the idea of the soul.
Ultimately, we are, by and large, our thoughts and deeds. If someone hates both, it seems highly unlikely that the "love" there is anything but illusory.
2007-12-04 15:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by JStrat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋