I met a guy 6 months ago and I’m starting to have very strong feelings for him. I am the quiet type and he actually met me while I was studying in the library. We have been on several dates and I’m always at his apartment helping him clean, cook and just hanging out. When his father died (3 weeks ago) I was the girl he called to come over to his house so that he would have a shoulder to cry on. I do so much for him I can’t even begin to list them all. The problem is there are so many girls who like him. He has so many girls’ numbers to the point he has to have two cell phones. One for family and close friends (me), and the other for his 300 plus female friends. Whenever we go out, his (female friends) cell phone is constantly ringing. I can’t exactly get mad because we aren’t a couple, well not yet. He wants to start a relationship and he tells me I’m the only girl he “really” cares about, but how do I start a relationship with a guy who has sooo many female “friends”? Please help me out. What can I tell him?
2007-12-04 07:30:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to ask yourself, and answer honestly, do you trust him? Also ask yourself, as his friend not his lover, is he ready for a monogomous relationship. There is nothing wrong with having female friends, but if they're friends with "benefits" you will ruin a friendship by turning it into a relationship if he is not ready.
2007-12-04 07:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by doc h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like if he is interested in you then he needs to start by leaving his female friend phone at home while he is with you. This would show a step toward him really careing for you. If he can not leave the phone and go out with you with out it then he has a problem, and is not really ready to settle for just you.
GOOD LUCK~
PS...I use to have a male friend I use to do everything for like you say you do for your male friend. We even dated, but he too was into alot of females and wouldn't give them up. I hung around still, wishing for more, but did not stop my own dating in the process. Finally found a man that wasn't into all the female flock and loves just me.
2007-12-04 07:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him about it. tell him if you feel uncomfortable about all his female friends always calling or anything really. if you truly are the only girl he really cares about, he will be willing to work things out with you. Plus, if you two do start dating then some of those girls that like him might back off just alittle because he will be unavalible to them.
2007-12-04 07:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by ...♥melissa♥... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see 2 possible situations here - either he's dating some of these women, or he's not. I can't tell from your message which is which.
Either way, you tell him how you feel about this, is how. If he's dating any of them, he stops. If he's just friends with them, but you're the special person in his life, you either stop being insecure about this, or don't date him.
2007-12-04 07:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a player, girl. If you're looking for a serious, monogamous relationship you need to date a guy who doesn't have so many "friends." I'm pretty sure these girls are friends with benefits too....
2007-12-04 07:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by Niki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks, anyways I think If he really likes you then he'll make it easy for you to connect on the next level, by doing whatever it tak4es like maybe turning off the ho-phone...
2007-12-04 07:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by A.K.A.Allen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The female friends will become a problem in your relationship , he has to choose between you or them....
2007-12-04 07:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Confused 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and foremost you should tell him how you feel about his other girl friends... i mean friends who are girls... the fact that he told you you are the only girl he cares about means that he cares about your feelings as well so if you tell him he would definitely do something about it for sure...
2007-12-04 07:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by amchoney143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him know that you ain't the type to sit around and be played and if he gets with one his ''femal friends'' dump him quick
2007-12-04 07:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by goodies make the boys jump on it 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, you already know the answer.
Dump him and find someone that is interested in you.
2007-12-04 07:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by Retired and Glad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋