Long distance relationship: How often should I expect to see him?

Question

We live 2 hrs away from each other. . . How often should I expect to see him ? What would be the healtiest for the relationship?

Answer 1

My wife and I lived 2 hrs 15 mins apart the whole time we dated. She would come see me some weekends, I would go there others. We saw one another almost every weekend at one place or the other. We talked every night on the phone for at least an hour or so.

Living apart like that is VERY difficult, but it is definitely doable. Worked out wonderfully for me and mine.

It helps if both of you will be very open about your whereabouts and goings on during the week without the other having to ask. Being that far apart, insecurities and suspicions will develop if you are not careful. Always being open to tell your love interest what you did during the day (without them having to ask) helps to soothe insecurities. If your S.O. asks you all the time what you did, it makes you see him/her as being controlling and jealous--which of course is a turnoff.

Answer 2

Two hours is not long distance. Two continents away-that is long distance. Two states away. Two hours, nothing.
You should expect to see him every 2 hours.
Or YOu should expect to see him every time YOU go see him or he meets you half way or you invite him over.
You can EXPECT all you want, but you will get what you WORK FOR.
The healthiest for the relationship is for one of you to move closer. That way you can grow, spend time together and build memories.
If this is a serious relationship it will not stay serious without face time. Lots of face time. Hardly any interference from local honeys.
If it is a booty call- it won't last past a few calls. Booty is too easy to come by.
I think you should talk several times a day, and see each other at least on weekends. all weekend, every weekend.
Take turns coming and going. Send care packages and little gifts during the week. Romance each other, and plan for great sex.
If this works, it can be great fun. If is doesn't you can tell when the phone calls start dwindling and the gifts stop or excuses for not coming for this weekend start.
If that happens, break it off and encourage him to find a local honey. You, too. Be nice.
Later, when the timing is right, you two might get up again.
Together

Answer 3

2 hours is not that 'long' distance of a ld relationship. i would say you should have 2-3 weekends together since you arent all that far away from eachother. but depending on how old you are, im assuming your young probably in high school, i would say you should be realistic here and just end it. you are not going to end up married if you are that young, and if you go out of your way to be unavailable to guys who are in the same city as you, you will regret 'wasting' so much time on your current relationship. i went to a high school with about 5000 other kids and know of only one relationship that has resulted in marriage, and it started after senior year and freshmen year in college. all the 'serious' relationships me/my friends had in high school never made it past the first semester when everyone was no more then 2 hours from each other. so your odds are not very good if you are expecting to stay together. so for the sake of not missing out on relationships with guys in your school i would be realistic about it and just end it. if you dont i would bet you will regret you didnt a few years down the line, and will always wonder who you would have dated had you not been committed to someone a couple hours away. and if it was meant to be you will get together when you can actually be together.

Answer 4

I have been in a relationship for 4 years, and we live 2 hours apart. In the beginning, we tried to see each other almost every weekend. But, as we have progressed in the relationship, we realize with our working schedules and our homes, we need to see each other less. We talk on the phone every day and leave IMs, but there are times when we only see each other once or twice a month.And, I believe we are both being faithful.

Answer 5

DPT my wife and I also had a LDR for almost 4 years before we exchanged vows. We would speak on the phone or net nightly and get together each weekend. As we both had pretty good jobs it was necessary that we sometimes had to work weekends but we never worked same weekends. So I would either go and spend the weekend at her place or she would visit me in my hometown. LDR's can be very good and long lasting providing both people are committed truly to each other and have a very high degree of trust. As with all relationships you will have temptations placed in front of you and it is obvious much easier to cheat while your mate is far away. But turning your head to these temptations will outweigh any good and/or bad that may have come from following through with them. Also he may come and surprise you the odd time as I did with my lady who lived 2.5 hours away. Best of luck and hopefully you two are as successful as we turned out to be.

Answer 6

I've had two long distance relationships (and I mean we lived several states away), so to me 2 hours is nothing. If the relationship is serious, I would think almost every weekend if neither of you are working. If it's not that serious, maybe a couple of times a month at most. It depends on what phase of the relationship you are in.

Answer 7

Weekend Dates

Answer 8

2 hours is not far at all if you are both committed. I know that is kind of a long distance relationship but 2 hours is a cake walk compared to what other people do. You'll do fine. The most important thing is that you BOTH want it it work.

Answer 9

As often as you think you can get away. Are you 2 hours by car or plane? Because if it's by car, that's not too far, if one of you can drive. It also depends on jobs, or school, if that fits either of you. My bf and I live 10 hours by car or train, one by plane and so far, we manage once a month for a few days.

Answer 10

it depends on if you think that you could spend the rest of your life with that someone, ive bin in a long-distance relationship for about 1 year and it should be 1 and a half, she lives about 1 hour and a 1/2. In the begining i didnt think that, i stayd with her cause she wanted me, but after awhille i began to fall in love with her. and the whole time she loved me. and it takes 2, remember that, 2 not 1, trust is the big thing. i didnt have that and i learned that it will just crumble everything that you and who ever it is to pieces.

dont lissen to those people that say he's cheating on you, cause you have no clue and if you worry about it, it will eat your thoughts up, everytime you talk to who-ever you will think about it and say something smart or bad you will loose them, just dont think about it, it was hard for me, but i overcome it cause i just think to myself now that if she or he wants to cheat on you then they are the 1 that lost something specail, i no that it is hard but you just gotta do it, and if you realy like the person then i guess you will never cheat on who-ever.

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