2007-12-04 07:06:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I know it isn't them, that they are just kids. The problem is me. I've no longer any patience.
2007-12-04 07:08:20 · update #1
Ignore them for a while if they are bothering you... (not like.. leave them and you know.. not talk to them..) and while you aren't listening to them...
Think to yourself...
They are just kids... they don't understand...
and whatever else might help you..
And then you know.. nicely talk to them.. and tell them to go play with their toys or something....
Just don't yell.. lol, Even though you are trying not to.. don't.
It will only make things worse.
Good luck!
2007-12-04 07:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah*NKOTB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK , this is what I do.
1.Change the scene, for small kids this usually solves half the problem they are too distracted to do whatever was driving me crazy, and guess what distracts me too .
2.Give myself a timeout. I go to the bathroom or a distant room and scream into a pillow, rant at it and once I have said all those things- it kind of lets the poison out and keeps me calm. Sometimes you just have to say certain things but if u say it out loud it will cause too much pain to all the parties involved. and alas words once spoken can't be taken back- but a pillow never tells on you.
3. Ask neighbours, relatives and friends for help. You will find most people willing most of the times, leave the kids with them and take 15 mins to wash ur hair or take a nice shower.
4. Persistently use other techniques to teach ur kids good behavior so that you find fewer instances when you feel like yelling at them.
5. With my 10 mo. old I sometimes start to yell and then convert it to a Tarzan scream or a high pitched opera song, works to distract the baby , helps me vent and makes us both laugh :)
Good luck.
2007-12-04 15:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by newmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard. But, what i do is hold my breathe for a second and just breathe. If that doesnt work, I walk outside away from the situation. Newmom said break out into a tarzan scream or an opera voice. That is great. It does work now that i think about it. Just be patient. Your children know you are mad even if you dont show it. Just get to their level and tell them what they have done wrong. Just be patient things will work out. Good luck.
2007-12-04 15:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom screamed at us! It had an adverse affect on me! Now I find myself yelling at my kids! I have to leave the room when I get upset with them! This has really helped! I remember the pain I went through growing up! My mom remedied the situation when I was young, but I still remember! Think about the affect this will have on your children!
2007-12-04 15:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Went through the same thing. Now when the upset me I walk away count to ten and come back depending on the situation I reprimand accordingly. Lecture, time out or if it's just an accident counting to ten helped me take a breath and look at the situation a little better.
2007-12-04 15:10:52 · answer #5 · answered by desiwallace24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need time out for yourself!!!
Give them structure, so that they knows that there is some daily routine.
This will keep an active child's mind occupied by having nap time the same, having play time the same, having lunch the same
. . stay calm, if they sensed you are frustrated and/or your losing patience (which is a completely normal feeling) then they will as well....think of it as fuel for their fire.
Sometimes we just need to understand from their point of view as they cannot fully express themselves.
Useful information to understand and how to deal with other similar situations
2007-12-05 04:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by Dan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take a "time-out" for yourself. Walk away from them and the situation until you've cooled down enough to think clearly. I'm not a 'mom' yet but I've worked in daycares and have had to do this myself. You're still a good mother, everyone gets impatient sometimes.
2007-12-04 15:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to catch yourself and put yourself on a time out. Walk out of the room, count to ten, whatever helps you relax. If you do yell, always apologize to your children and let them know what you meant to communicate to them.
2007-12-04 15:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by Precious 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you feel that you need or have to yell, walk away and cool down. Like you say kids will be kids, but sometimes they do need to get fussed at.
2007-12-04 15:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give your self 1 hr 3 days per week to work on being a better you. work out, meditate, read...just you
And yelling is just a bad habit you can learn to break.
2007-12-04 15:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by foolofjoy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋