ok,please tell me how it is that we are suppose to continue to show compassion for those who have never shown us any???
i.e=Ive suffered through death of very close loved ones,seriousl illnesses etc...only to have these people
disregard me,and instead of being supportive,made remarks such as ''oh,get over it ,your not the only one to go through that!!
NOW my question is ..these are the same people who call me complaining and crying because their significant other isnt being nice,or they didnt get the raise they wanted,or their lasagne didnt come out the way they like it??
how AM I suppose to have compassion for these people??
I would really appreciate if you could give an actual example,instead of just quoting scripture!!
I dont mind if you have to quote swcripture,but please also,add your own personal viewpoint!!
thanks to those who help on this one?
2007-12-04 06:56:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
btw=before any of you suggest this
I have already spoken to them NUMEROOUS times about this!!
2007-12-04 07:01:58 · update #1
problem=you didnt answer my question at all,its not about being angry at them??
the QUESTION is how to I show them compassion?
2007-12-04 07:03:13 · update #2
premaholic=you didnt read the question either did you??
I have not lost compassion
Im asking how to show compassion to those who continually disregard you?
2007-12-04 07:05:53 · update #3
The best way you can show compassion to these people is to remind them of what they said to you. Seriously. The most compassionate thing you can do is not to mollycoddle someone who has no compassion for your very real loss, but cries over ruined lasagna. You don't have to say it in a mean, "now you know how I feel" kind of way. You could say, "Well, you know, you reminded me once that I wasn't the only one going through a tough time. I needed to buck up. Maybe that would be a good thing for you to do here."
Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for someone is to speak the truth, as long as you do it in love. For what it's worth, I commend you for caring enough to want to be compassionate in these circumstances.
2007-12-04 07:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 20:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by pax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, if you withhold love from others(even when they dont deserve it) it locks you up inside. Bitterness can take place and then its all downhill from there. Remember if people treat you bad, it's THEIR problem. You do the loving thing and you will always come out ahead.
2007-12-04 07:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is obviously something you're struggling with - something lots of us struggle with if we're honest. We have this natural inclination to treat folks "in kind" - and to have compassion, REAL compassion - we have to fight against this.
We have to try as hard as we can to place ourselves in their shoes.
We have to let go of the memory of past hurts and try to deal with the present circumstances the way we would have WANTED them to deal with our pain, not the way they did deal with it.
We have to let go and simply treat them with the view that, no matter how trivial ther struggles seem to us - they ARE struggling with the issues.
Easy? No way!
But possible.
2007-12-04 07:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by Marji 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'd trust your instincts on this one. some people in some circumstances deserve comforting, but in other circumstances (like habitual self-victomizers), the real way to show compassion is to deny them comforting and maybe make them realize they are bringing this suffering on themselves.
2007-12-04 07:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to "let go" of hurts. I know..I have a real problem holding a grudge. It only hurts you to harbour anger. Either get those people out of your life or you have to forgive them..It will just eat you up to stay angry.
2007-12-04 07:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by PROBLEM 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask God to work in your life. I know people that hate me but I just keep trusting my lord and he changes my thinking toward them. Jesus encountered many people who did not want to trust his word. Some of the disciples asked if they should ask God to rain fire down on them like Elias. Jesus then replied I came not to destroy the world be to save it and went somewhere else to teach. I hope this will be of help.
2007-12-04 07:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by King Arthur 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Those people are simply selfish. In order to find comfort you must find others who are more willing to show empathy to you and your problems.
2007-12-04 07:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by runic111 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't bother with anyone who can't be arsed to treat me decently. It's made my life much happier.
2007-12-04 07:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by ~Smirk~ Resurrected 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compassion is your very nature. If you feel you have no compassion, it is because you have lost yourself....
2007-12-04 07:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by Premaholic 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋