What do you tell a fifteen year old who just started having sex?

Question

i'm her cousin 30yrsold. and i think she will listen,
her mom has already talked to her about stds /aids/.....
what would you say

Answer 1

Use protection, ALL THE TIME. Get some BC pills.....get educated on what risks she is taking, and what she could lose.....besides self respect, and her life.
She is a teenager, she needs to re reminded...over and over.

Answer 2

I would emphasize that she should be on birth control, such as The Pill. As much as she might say she's using condoms, let's face it, sometimes they go by the wayside in the heat of the moment. And while only some boys might have an STD, any one of them could get her pregnant. Emphasis on both issues with the Pill and condoms, that would be my advice.

And of course, the emotional issues that are bound to come up, especially if she and her boyfriend should break up at some point. I don't know what to say about those because I don't know her and how she reacts to things; I don't know the situation at all, past what you've said. But if she knows you're there for her with any questions or just a shoulder to cry on, that will mean the world. Remember, there are some things a gal doesn't feel comfortable telling her parents. To know she has a caring cousin such as you can make all the difference.

Answer 3

I would encourage her to evaluate the relationship she's in and hopefully it's a loving one so that her she's not just giving her virginity away randomly...I hope she sees herself as more valuable than that...I'd explain that she holds the power in her relationship--she doesn't ALWAYS have to have sex now that she's started. What most young girls don't count on is how they will feel once their relationship is over. They are emotionally not ready for the terrible feeling of giving themselves away when they think it's a forever thing...also they are never prepared for how others will talk about them.
Since she's already decided that she's "mature enough" to have sex, make sure she's having sex maturely. That means protected and knowing the reasons WHY she's having sex. (Being in a commited,loving relationship,NOT being pressured into it, or trying to "keep" a boyfriend,etc...) You're a good cousin. I wish you both luck!

Answer 4

Stop and think before you ruin your life. HIV is up at an alarming rate among teens, sex outside marriage is wrong and if you get pregnant your future is 77% more likely to not turn out as you hoped. Not to mention being faced with two morally questionable things. Abortion or Giving up your child because you cannot raise them with less than a high school education. And a 15 year old should not be put in that situation..

Answer 5

give a good argument. come to the conversation completely prepared. and offer to be there for her. yes she has already heard the STD/Pregnancy conversation, but if it came from mom, and she and mom aren't close, then it probably came in one year and out the other. I would have photos of the different STD's, you can get them on line. And you can ask her to wait, but most likely she is going to do what she wants to do. Tell her you want to take her to planned parenthood and get her on birth control, and get her a supply of condoms, because if she is going to make such an adult decision then she needs to be prepared, because guys don't always have a condom then they talk you into having sex anyway. Girls get pregnant everyday, and even if she rolls her eyes and say's i already know this stuff, tell her anyway, tell her how important it is to be responsible with sex, because a baby, and put a huge stopper in her lifes plans.

Answer 6

First of all you or her mom should of star this talk back when she was 11.. But still you can tell her like I told my sis*(11yrs younger) once..
Have respect for your self.. Don't say YES to the first guy that ask you to be with.. IF guys don't respect you they will never do.You need to respect and love your self.. This is not a contest of who is with more guys because if you do are with lots of guys they will treat you like nothing..Besides usually guys are more comunicative and say everything that happend between you and him they are not discret and they don't care because the are "man" ...
PROTECTION is very important too.. to avoid aids,unwanted pregnacies and much more...
Wait for the rigth guy to be with and when you think you are ready not because someone is telling you or putting pressures on you....Don't jump from bed to bed.. IF you are with a guy once he will always want to be with you and if he does love you he will wait until you are ready.. let guys wait that way you will know how important you are to them.. This is what i told my little sis..I really don't know if she is following my advice but at least I told her the importance of being respected.. Best wishes...

Answer 7

Sex is to be enjoyed with someone that cares about You and not Your body. The joy of sex is far greater when the minds are united and not just the bodies. Spreading the joy around too much is like watering down the value. Save the best for that special person and don't let your body become your best attraction.

Answer 8

That the most important thing is for her to be safe and maybe mom needs to get her the new vaccine that came out for HPV.And explain to her that you are not saying that it is ok.But you want her to be safe.
And that marriage is the best to wait on.
That is about all you can do is tell her that you wish she would not,most 15 year olds think they know it all and will do it anyway.They just have to learn on their own.

Answer 9

talk to her and have her explian what she knows about STDs, AIDS, unplanned pregnancy and the emotional implications that go along with sex. This way you'll be able to tell how much she understands about what she is doing (and why she is doing it... i.e. self esteem, to keep a boyfriend, peer pressure...)and will be able to direct the conversation appropriately.

Answer 10

First, do the math:
1. she gets pregnant
2. the teen father is making, say, $11/hr - $22,000/yr
3. She'll get about 15% of that in child support - about $3,300/yr
4. She has to now find a guy who's willing to marry her with a kid
5. when she's in her 20's - best time to find a decent, financially secure guy - her kid will be b/t 7 and 9. Not really attractive to a potential husband
6. Meanwhile, the loser father of her child is having other babies, so he has probably stopped paying her child support