at what age of a child do you start discussing sex with him/her?

Answer 1

Depends. Do you want to be the first to tell him/her about it, or do you want him/her to hear it from his peers?

I never had the chat with my parents. I learned about this in 4th grade (age 10) from my peers. I had just transferred to this "catholic" school that year. I don't know how long the other people there knew, so conceivably, they may have known all about it in 3rd grade or something. I don't know.

If you want to be the first, I think you need to have the chat by 3rd grade (age 9) at the latest. People start noticing the opposite gender after that, and start getting all these feelings and weird ideas. They may get curious and well, you know how that goes.

If you want to wait until he/she comes to you, it may never happen, and he/she will go through life (until sex ed class) with wrong ideas and such.

Answer 2

Depends on the age. If your child is under the age of 7, I wouldn't go too far into it. However, once they are in school you need to start thinking about it.

I have many friends who are teachers. Most of them are elementary school teachers. And most of them have stories of young kids at their school getting caught doing something along those lines.
My one girlfriend and a co-wokrer, who is also a teacher, caught a 3rd grade girl giving oral to a 4th grade boy behind a stairwell in school.
Another girlfriend had 2 5th graders caught "attempting" to have intercourse in the boys bathroom.
A lot of the reason young people do it is
1. They have heard about it, or seen it on TV or accidentally caught an older sibbling or realitive in the act and they are curious.
2. Peer pressure (yes, even at a young age)

A lot of it comes down to parenting. I would be willing to bet the parents of the kids that were caught weren't the most responsible parents in the world.
I strongly believe it is every parents responsiblity to shield a child that is that young from anything that is innapropriate (I was not allowed to watch MTV or Married with Children...my dad still doesn't allow MTV in the house when I visit and I am almost 30!) There are just some things that will create more curiosity in young minds than they are ready to handle.
Its also important to monitor the friends they choose to hang out with.
Also look for signs more than just direct questions about the topic. If you have a daughter, is she trying to look cuter for a boy, is she talking about what other girls are doing with boys (kissing, holding hands) does she want to wear makeup and start shaving her legs? These are all signs that an older girl, or more advanced girl is having an influence on her.
If you have a boy.....they are harder to read. Try to notice if he is stopping on channels that have older looking women on TV. If he is talking about a particular girl a lot.
Definitley talk to your child if they are 10-12 years old. I got the talk at 11....but things were much different then. However, even 12 years ago there were girls having sex in Middle School...so address it by then!
And as always...monitor their on-line activity if they are old enough.

Answer 3

somewhat, it will be even as there's a possiblity she might want to commence menstruation. some females initiate on the age of 8, so, if women on your relatives have a heritage of beginning early, then you honestly could perchance communicate about it at 8. If she does commence, there'll be a available difficulty of a being pregnant. then you honestly can initiate informing her about the male device, and then have the communicate about 'the position little ones come from'. once you're fortunate sufficient, your daughter's college may have sex Ed, so ask the crucial in the adventure that they have got that. No, i do not have self belief this is incorrect to wish to go her off. What if her classmates percentage some myths, and he or she is anxious? you gained't want her to have the incorrect advice. Or what if some thing has got here about that made her uncomfortable. attempt no longer to make sex this somewhat embarassing problem. If she receives a boyfriend, you want her to be able to communicate about to him. nicely, there you bypass!

Answer 4

Whenever they ask or if an opportunity presents itself, like the birth of a sibling.
Sex is a part of human existence, and just like you explain scientific concepts such as gravity in age-appropriate terms, you can do the same with the topic of sex. If you are matter of fact and explain it in small , age appropriate doses, then when they reach puberty there are no surprises and less giggling.

Answer 5

My daughter is 2 1/2 and has a boy baby doll that is anatomically correct. We have told her that boys are different than girls. That's it so far. We'll tell her more when the timing is right. I'm pregnant with a boy and due in April so she'll probably question more about the difference between boys and girls then. I say, start young with general talks so when you get to the big talk it's not an uncomfortable situation.

Answer 6

8 or 9 and it needs to be an on going discussion the whole why through growing up. My son starting asking how a baby got into a mommy's belly when he was eight, he's nine now, and the answer is honest but at his level. We've had to discuss more with school peers influence, and I attempt to discuss it BEFORE his peers get to him.
Unfortunately, kids are discussing things at school younger and younger, and we need to "protect" them from it by talking to them the RIGHT way before they've already started to talk about with their peers.
Some think "protecting" them is to not talk about it until they're older. But I think it's important to set a good base with them now before it's something that only talk about with their peers, and then don't know it's okay to talk about it with us the parents. If it's something we don't talk to them about and explain, then they may not feel comfortable when confronted at school with it.
It's alot easier to avoid an acident then to try to fix one after it happended.

Answer 7

My mother told me about "where babies come from" and why when I was 5 years old, because that is when I asked. Of course she gave me a very basic, age-appropriate version of the facts, but it was enough for me to understand the differences between men and women and I was never mislead to believe that babies came from storks or cabbage patches, or any of that other nonsense that people come up with to 'protect' children from the the basic, natural facts of life... I am happy my mother chose to educate me, not confuse me.

Children - even young ones - are capable of understanding rather complex issues, and you shouldn't be afraid to speak about the subject of sex with your child when they are ready to talk about it. If your kid is asking you questions, give him/her some answers!

The worst thing you could do as a parent is to fail to educate them about the important subjects of life. Without answers from home, they'll go seeking them from other outside sources and what they find might not be the most appropriate version for their age and level of maturity.

Communicating with your kids will only make you closer to them, and they will seek your counsel more as they become older and more curious about the world. It's important to develop that trust-sharing-bond early on.

Answer 8

the age you should start tellin your kids about sex is early because i know so many kids that are having sex at 11,12, and 13 i mean im only 15 and i am still a virgin so start early if you dont want your kids to start having sex sooner. and to really get them about not having sex young is tell them about all the risks and try to scare them with all the things that they could get if they have sex young.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Well as far as knowing all of your sex organs you might want to do this young. When they are two you can tell them this is your vagina or penis. Tell them no one is to touch them there. If they get molested and can't say where they were touched you might have problems. Legal system is weird.