My 12 year old was able to skip a year, so he's in 7th grade this year. He's always got so much homework to do. He fell asleep last night at the table working on his math and he only had like 5 problems left to do. I sent him to bed then I felt sorry for him so I finished it up for him (I tried to make it look like his handwriting). He had done the rest of the problems, so I know he knew how to do them, but was it wrong of me to finish it for him?
2007-12-04 05:39:06 · 28 answers · asked by college_mom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
not for a one time deal, if you did it often then it would be.
2007-12-04 06:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋
well, the teacher will take his completed homework as a sign that (a) he could do all the problems (which he may or may not have been able to do); and (b) the amount of homework was reasonable, since he was able to finish it. Much better to tell the teacher that he was overwhelmed by the amount of homework and fell asleep in the middle. Or let him finish in the morning. Or have him start homework earlier in the afternoon. Also, what's the lesson for your child from the person he trusts the most? That someone else doing his work is fine? You don't want him deciding that it's fine to cheat! What if the homework is graded on a curve and other kids get lower grades because you did some of your son's homework for him?
I understand the impulse, but I think it was a mistake and that you should tell your son that.
edit -- wow, i absolutely can't believe how many people think it's fine for your kid to cheat on homework ... because that's certainly what it is. if it's too much homework, don't do it. but don't pretend someone else's work is your own. i think building integrity is way more important than getting five problems right on a homework assignment. what's so bad about leaving the problems he didn't do blank?? are we more obsessed with grades than integrity??? this is classic helicopter parenting, and it doesn't do kids any favors.
2007-12-04 05:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by ... 6 · 5⤊ 6⤋
When I was in school my mom did that for me once and I was disciplined by the teacher for cheating.
I understand you're desire to be a compassionate parent but you might want to step back and examine the bigger picture. Why was he up so late doing homework? While he may be smart enough to handle 7th grade work is he physically and socially ready to be a 7th grader? Is he also doing sports or clubs? When does he start his homework?
I suggest you request a meeting with his teachers and ask how long should he be spending on homework. Then weigh that against the time commitment from his extracurricular activities. Have him drop 1 extra activity or start his homework promptly after school.
2007-12-04 07:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by Fred 1 · 5⤊ 2⤋
No I don't think that's bad at all. The amount of homework my 5 year old gets is crazy. I really think that with school being as long as it is, homework assignments should be more creative rather then the stuff that is taught in class. Your son is obviously really smart and if nothing else I think you did the right thing. Every once in a while a kid needs a little slack cut for them so he doesn't wind up saying screw it, I don't want to do this anymore.
2007-12-04 07:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by jesscblu 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
What did your son learn by your doing his homework? Is this going to help the teacher to know that he obviously has a problem in one area and may need a little extra help in that area?
2007-12-04 08:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should make it a routine for him to come home from school and finish his homework then. Instead of waiting til almost bedtime when he is tired and can't possibly finish it all. He is obviously smart enough to do it.
2007-12-04 09:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'd say probably. It does depend on your son. Is he the type to take advantage in the future or will he just be thankful for your help. Also, discuss with him that maybe it wasn't the most honest thing to do (disguising your handwriting, etc.) but let him know why. The same reasons you stated here. Also let him know if it happens again you'll wake him earlier in the morning to finish. Btw, I might've done the same, still doesn't make it ok.
2007-12-04 05:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by mamasmurf_50 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Yes. Don't do this. It's his responsibililty. Do you have him over scheduled? He should have time each day to do his homework. My kids get a small amount of down time after school and then straight to homework. After dinner, they finish up if they haven't yet. More often they did get it done between 5 and 6 pm so that we can have some family time after dinner.
2007-12-04 06:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by treehugger 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Don't feel bad, I've done that myself. Sometimes the amount of homework is way too much especially when they get into middle school and High School and each teacher is giving homework. Just let him know that he is still responsible for getting his work done and this is not something that you are going to do all the time for him.
2007-12-04 06:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by Kerri S 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
If he was able to 'skip a year' and be placed ahead of his peers - he should be able to handle the work load as well. It's not nurturing or anything of the sort to do homework for a child. If his workload is such that he's not getting enough sleep then you really need to assess the importance of his being academically ahead a year. Who's it for - you or the child?
2007-12-04 06:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
I do it too, for my 9 year old. I just try to make it look a bit sloppyier than my own writing.
2007-12-05 05:56:24 · answer #11 · answered by Heather R♥se 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋