we just don't get along. i even moved away. and we just don't talk to each other any more. help
2007-12-04 05:32:04 · 9 answers · asked by SunnyDays 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Been there, done that. Please don't do as I did, as you will run the risk of losing your Son and his family.
I couldn't deal with her so I fought back. It got so bad that I told my Son he had to choose between her and I.
He was married and loved her and chose her. I was left out in the cold for a long time and really and truly regretted it.
My advice is that you find it in your heart to forgive her for her shortcomings or whatever bothers you and try to find some type of civil relationship.
I did and now I have actually grown to like her. I am so sorry that I ever tried to interfere with his relationship.
Love her because she is family. Open your heart wide and you will find a way.
Good luck and God Bless!!!
2007-12-04 05:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have more than a civil relationship with your daughter in law. Keep the relationship with your son strong and defer to her judgement when it comes to the grandkids and you should be fine. Now if your son has decided that you are in the wrong and it's affecting your relationship with him, you really are going to have to look at what you've done to contribute to the animosity and what you can do to help the situation. How much do these relationships mean to you? When you look at your actions, have they helped or hindered the situation. Many mother's will say that they will do anything for their children--even give their lives--but when it comes down to it they can't even be quiet when they need to and allow their children to lead their own lives.
2007-12-04 05:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by P. C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why would you move away? live and let live, and dont let your daughter in law control your emotions, hon... it's just not healthy.
you can still have a relationship with your son.... in this instance you are the elder... i have come to realize that we aren't here to win a popularity contest and everyone won't like us... and as a matter of fact, there are just some people in the world who are not the nicest to us...
Gather your dignity, act like a lady, and IGNORE her! Your reactions are feeding her bitterness... if you don't react, and just accept her at face value, life will be good.
take care of YOU.. that is most important.
2007-12-04 05:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just love her for making your son happy. I assume. Just love her, you don't have to live with her. Treat her like a daughter, even if a rebellious one. If she's ;like that with your son as well... then talk to him. You can't get in the middle, let them figure it out. After all, you can count your blessings, that you don't have to deal with her on daily basis.
2007-12-04 08:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say that I have a mother in law from hell. I would love for her to be close to me and my husband, but she not only is mean to me but also my husband, so we have little contact with her anymore. Honestly, I would love for her to be close to us. My husband misses out and my children do also. I think you should have a talk with your son and his wife and see how they are feeling. During this talk please do not judge or be harsh. Maybe a compromise could be reached, but one never will be if you don't try.
2007-12-04 06:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother-in-law and every girl my sons dated and/or married, set up barriers. I would try to have a relationship, walk on eggs around them, give too much, etc. etc. One day I said to hell with it and the world didn't end. The son is going to take the side of the person who's giving him sex, that's a fact.
2007-12-04 05:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by beez 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not to rain on your parade but have you looked at how you treat her? Does she have any reason to see you as the mother in law from hell, like overbearing , interfering, or siding with your son etc, also look at how your mother in law was with you, do you see any similar patterns??????
Make peace and swallow your pride regardless...... and pray!!!!
2007-12-04 05:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by unix 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's jealousy she can't stand the fact that you get the attention.
2007-12-04 05:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by efwisocap 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love her unconditionally, she is family!!
2007-12-04 05:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋