My son came home yesterday and told us that some kids on the bus were saying that there is no Santa. He said yes there is because on my presents it says from Santa, and they of course said Parents just write that on there. I know he'll have to find out sooner or later but I don't want to take that from him yet. santa is not what Christmas is about in our house. We definatelly celebrate the Birth of our Savior but, Santa is so much fun to do with the kids and see their little faces light up when somehting is from Him or when we track him on the computer. However, i'm feeling really guilty because just he night before we talked about how Mommy and Daddy tell him the truth about stuff, even Big stuff and explain it to him so he'll understand instead of hiding things and cushioning everything the way some parents do, and he said that's why i like yall so much.......What to do? Ugh!!!!!! I also have a 5 yr old daughter and am afraid that he will share this info with her as well
2007-12-04 05:13:35 · 22 answers · asked by HisPrincess 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell him the big kids don't understand the magic of Santa anymore that it has disappeared for them and that usually it reappears when they have children of their own, which is so true, i agree about the real meaning of Christmas, but santa if used correctly reinforces the belief of believing in something not seen just believed, goodness, love, caring, giving to people that cant help themselves, have them give a toy for toys for tots so santa dosent have to have his elves work so hard, santa is a warm comfortable shelter, someone extra that loves you, you know you got the magic back when you had kids didnt you
2007-12-04 05:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dale T 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth, or become a liar which isn't the best of things, especially as you told him how open you are with him.
At the end of the day, it's just santa, a make believe character. It is also a representation for the commercialism which shrouds christmas, which is why you see companies like coca cola using them in their adverts.
He may be disappointed but you will feel much better when you think about it. You told him the truth and besides, he can still enjoy everything he could before, thinking santa was real.
2007-12-04 05:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by Squiddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK - so my daughters are 8 and 3 and it has definitely come up. What we tell the girls is that not everyone believes in Santa Claus - for folks who don't believe, he is not real and that is ok. Believing is a choice. Santa also has a lot of helpers - not just the 'fake' Santas at the malls, but real people helpers. And that being Santa's helper is important for our family - so we donate money, food and toys to help others in need - not just at Christmas time but throughout the whole year. I've asked open ended questions like 'how would you feel if you didn't believe in Santa' and they just can't imagine - they're no where near ready to let go. I feel like we parents opened the door to Santa so we should tread carefully about how we close it.
They've also asked the 'how does Santa get in' (cause our chimney is capped) and how come he can only bring us three toys instead of everything we want? We've come up with good answers (well, ones we can live with and that pass our laugh test) as we've needed them - and I've told them that parents pass on some of Santa's secrets to their children when they are grown-up.
Best of luck!
2007-12-04 05:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice. You can tell him that there is no santa and that mommy and daddy are the ones that give him gifts. You can try saying that santa is very busy or that santa cannot do it because.... you know? Or you can baby him and tell him that the kids who told him that were just the bad kids and that their parents had to give them gifts because santa would only give them lumps of coal. Just make sure you do eventually tell him there is no santa, but more than likely he'll know alot more than just santa not being real very soon.
Before public school I never cussed, lied and was extremely nice. But after going, I completely changed.
Especially in elementary school, its all kids talking about sexual terms and just being potty-mouthed.
If I had a 7 year old child and was in your position, I would probably tell him that Santa is real, those children are just on the naughty list and that like I said, they won't get a visit from santa. I'd just make sure he knew that by 12 or 13 that there was no santa, or figured it out on his own. Same goes for all holiday characters. :)
GOod luck.
2007-12-04 05:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by Brittany K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to explain it to my son by telling him that although Santa is not a real man who delivers gifts on Christmas, he's still real in a spiritual sense - that every time you do something nice for someone else around Christmas time, you are Santa's helper.
He's 7 as well, so I guess the time is coming.
Better your son hear it from you, than the kids at school.
Also, he's in a position to be teased if he still thinks Santa is real.
2007-12-04 05:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by Taryn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't come right out and say there is no Santa. Since you have made a point of letting him no how honest you are with him(which I think is great), I would sit him down and explain how there really was a St. Nick and what he did. Then let him know that while St. Nick/Santa is not physically alive like you and me, he is in our hearts and by believing in him and his work, we are keeping him alive. The spirit of what he installed around the world is giving and that is so very important. Tell your son that young children have trouble understanding it so the whole thing is not told to them until they are mature enough to understand, which you think your son is.
2007-12-04 05:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by rose k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I certainly would NOT tell him. Why shatter his Christmas?
Children do get to know without you having to tell them (like the kids on the bus). I told mine 'If you don't believe, you don't get' - which is true isn't it?
My daughter is just 11, and she asked if Santa was coming to her this year. I explained that she is older now and in her last year of Primary School so this year will be her last. But
'daddy and me can still make a stocking' for her! I am sure
she knows, but I can't blame her for pretending! Happy Christmas and a Very Happy New Year. Minxy.
2007-12-04 05:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him figure it out on his own, give him slight hint, tell him to believe in whatever he wants and I will beleive it with you. When he is about 9 then let him know the truth. Better yet let him know after Christmas rather before. It brings the spirit up for the child when he cant wait to see what Santa brought him, then a month later let him know the truth.
2007-12-04 05:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by LOOK!!! there he is. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, let him believe, until he is ready to realize that their isn't. He's only 7. Just tell him that some kids don't have as much christmas spirit, and that some parents help santa out cause he gets behind on his schedual.
2007-12-04 05:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t think you should tell him yet, maybe next year not around Christmas time it will be really hard for him to take it now. Regarding your daughter you could make a deal with him an encourage him to help you keep that secret from his sister that way she will enjoy Christmas more, until she is old enough to find out the awful truth. Good Luck!!
2007-12-04 05:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by ...... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋