would you be the "other" woman?

Question

i have a have my thoughts and have already heard a few reasons but i read another question on here and it made me think of this.

alot of times men dont mind being the other man. its like if you keep giving me the sex i want i'm cool.

would you or would you not be okay with being the other woman? i mean its not a secret. he told you up front he was with someone. what are you looking to benefit from being with an already involved man? i mean is it, as long as he fullfills certain needs of yours (sexual, financial, etc) do you even care if he goes home to another woman?

Answer 1

I am always the other woman and I have no problem with it. The guy always tells me up front that he is married.

Answer 2

I have been the other woman and went in knowing everything there was to know. I felt like this i didn't know her so i was hurting her etc. Him and i were involved for over a year and you know what it was fun, exciting, and interesting but being the other woman you can't call when you want, you can't talk when you want and he can't come when you want...I always said i would never be the other woman. But since i was cheated on by girls that knew me and knew my bf and i were together. i knew what it felt like to be cheated on...so i guess i turned into a bitchh and started doing it back...the problem was i wasn't getting them back..i was hurting someone who was home being lied to just like me...so i stopped it b/c i felt bad for what i did and finally worked the nerve to tell her face to face that her man is a dog and after 9 yrs she finally left...it wasn't just me he was sleeping with. there were others before and after me but it was time she found out.

I did it b/c i wanted her to know the truth not some lie he would of made up and i wished someone would have told me. But i would rather be #1 not #2,#3,#4 or whatever # you are in his book. Being the other woman is work and sometimes more work then a 40 hr job just to see someone and sneak around. The messed up part is he still tries to get sexx but now i'm in a relationship and I don't cheat on my partner...So go head give me thumbs down..you asked i told.

Answer 3

Personally, no. I mean, it's cool to just have a "friend-with-benefits" and all, knowing everything up front, but I would never be with someone who was already taken. Regardless if I knew upfront. I'm too greedy in a relationship. If I'm not number 1, then they aren't worth it.

Plus, I've been cheated on when I thought everything was fine, and that's a horrible feeling, so there's no way I could do that to someone else.... or be the other party....

Answer 4

No i wouldn't want to be the other woman. The other woman always get seconds. The other womans heart is taken for granted. The other woman can better be summed up as the side line HO! The other woman will somehow get her feelings involved and then in return get hurt because she is (The Other Woman). The Other Woman is used for sexual pleasures. The Other Woman somehow must have low self esteem. In other words the other woman will always be THE OTHER WOMAN!

Answer 5

well let me see where to start my thought on the subject are kinda jaded due to the fact the many things happened in my youth i think that a much older age when life has handed you the bad cup of milk certain siruations make you change the way you think ands you let your self be the other woman because you have no strings attached and this person is providing all the things you need . but your question is would i do it and my answer is no but i do not judge ather who decide to do this.

Answer 6

I've been the "other woman" before when I was much younger. He gave me the standard crap ("My wife doesn't understand my needs, she's too unstable to leave right now, looking for a woman who really is more my equal, blah blah blah") and I bought it. I didn't want a commitment at the time so I was OK with it.

These days I know better and I would never settle for being "the other woman" - not because I have any sort of solidarity with women, but because I would want a man that's 100% for me, and not dividing his time between me and his #1 choice.

Answer 7

i could never be the other women because it would hurt to much it you fell in love with the man or the other women found out and alot the times the wife or girlfriend does then goes after the "other " women i think its just plain wrong and bad of the person for doing such a thing to tell the turth id rather be on my own than doing that..x

Answer 8

Definetly not, there will be no way id be involve with a man who is screwing another woman, especially sexually, i wouldnt want my man to bring home another womans decease, that is juss sickening, i dont know how other women can deal with situations like this, but im all for a "No" on this one.

Answer 9

I couldn't do that to another woman, or to myself. By being willing to cheat on his wife with me, he would be showing that he doesn't believe in commitment, he's untrustworthy and a liar, and doesn't know how to love. The most terrible thing you can do is to take another person's spouse, destroying their life, cheapening their love, and devaluing their intimacy. I have too much empathy and self-respect to be the infamous other woman.

Answer 10

I wouldn't want it done to me and so I wouldn't do it to someone else. However, never say never so perhaps if the right circumstances came up I might. Kind of a vague answer but it is difficult to say until the situation is actually present.

Answer 11

I have been the other women for a long time. It was cool for a while but then i started to have my needs so then it was not so cool.
I think women tend to always fall first in those situations. Not that men dont but yeah. . . . .