Boyfriend is keeping contact with ex girlfriend private because i got jealous. Should I be worried?

Answer 1

ex bf or gf tend to be excellent side action....I would be worried.

Answer 2

First of all, he may be just keeping it private because he thinks you may be suspicious (I mean, we can all say "nope, we're not" but we are to certain extent). He may just want to avoid problems, which is understandable. Also keep in mind it is possible to be friends with your ex still - but since this doesn sound feasible to "many people", he may be keeping that away from you - again, to avoid misunderstandings.

Though you do have every right to feel jealous! We all can feel jealous - it really depends what we do with this feeling. We can talk it out and try to resolve the problem (both parties will probably feel better this way), or you can choose to use that feeling mal-constructively, which is basically being the jealous, possessive ex.

Answer 3

Yes, you should be worried. Why is he keeping the contact with her a secret?? There is a reason for that. Whats he hiding? There are many fish in the sea. I would dump this loser and find another guy because if he is keeping secrets now he will keep doing that the rest of the time you are in a relationship with him. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but the reason he is keeping the contact secret is he is probably still sleeping with her and doesn't want you two to get together and compare "notes"!!!! DUMP THIS LOSER. You deserve better!

Answer 4

I would worry, not about the ex-girlfriend, but what the jealousy caused in your relationship. Obviously it caused your boyfriend not to trust you enough to let you know that he remains friends with this girl.
Start trying to get that trust back. Friendship is something that lasts a long time, because it is hard to find a true friend. A lover is easy to find around any corner. I think I would work on being a better friend to my boyfriend and not worry about the other stuff.
If this relationship is meant to be it will, if not....well, it won't.

Answer 5

If he is JUST keeping it a secret because you got jealous then no, you should not worry. Did he bring her up first or did you find out somehow. Because if he is HIDING it you should talk to him about it.

A couple exes and I actually still talk, but my GF has nothing to worry about. I love her with all my heart. BUT she does get very jealous so I don't offer up the fact that I have recently spoke with one unless I am asked or it is otherwise pertinant.

Answer 6

Tina2u275,


I would probably be concerned. It really does depend though on the kind of guy your boyfriend is. If he seems like he really loves you, likes to spend time with you, and is usually really honest with you, then there's probably nothing to worry about.


But, if lately you've been getting in fights, and have been seeming to drift apart then it might be time to split up.


Be honest to yourself, you don't have to ask us if you should be worried. Most girls would, so it's okay. He really doesn't have a right to be hiding stuff from you like that, you should definitely confront him about it. And if he says you're over reacting, say no because obviously if he's trying to keep it private then he has something to hide.

Answer 7

Well nothing should be private when you are already involved with someone. Yeah you might should be worried because if it has to be done in private that means he has something to hide. Humm keep your eyes and ears open. Don't start accusing though, until you have some kind of proof.

Answer 8

Yes! Be very worried...
It may be nothing in the beginning and he could be avoiding those fights and arguments by hiding it all. He could be trying to be her friend. But you never know when things change.
You don't know what is on her mind. Is she trying to get him back?
He could start going to her for advice and a shoulder to lean on when you have a fight. You never know when he has a weak moment and gives in to her.
Or he is just trying to keep you both...
If he loves you and trusts you, he should be honest & tell you everything, even things that could make you feel a little bad.
Get it all out in the open before things go bad for you.

Answer 9

Yes, your jealousy is so strong it is blinding you to the idea that your boyfriend has a heart big enough to accept his ex as a friend even though they broke up. Your jealousy and selfishness is so strong you will be the one to ultimately destroy your relationship with him, because you have no forgiveness in your own heart.
You have a choice - you can either forgive him and get to know the kind of guy who is willing to bury a hatchet with an old friend and have the courage to face them again, or you can hate so much that you destroy it all.
Choose, but choose wisely.

Answer 10

Anything private is bad. He should be open with you, and you would have never gotten jealous if he wasn't doing anything wrong. Don't get mad for no reason... See how he acts with her if he openly talks about how he is friends wit her. Then you'll know if you should be jealous or not. But there is really no reason for him to talk to his ex girl. Most ex's that talk hook up!!

Answer 11

Well ive been in this situation before where i kept in contant with my ex but his girlfriend didnt like it at all so we had to keep it secret and when she found out she flipped i think you shouldnt be worreid unless his ex and him were a long time thing. I think that you should talk to him about it and let him know that you like him alot and thats why you dont want him talking to another girl espically his ex
maybe tell him if he lets you know that hes talking to her you wont have a problem about it