My boyf was with his ex for 3 years and they split up 4 years ago. Him, his best friend and best friend's girlfriend Cath are all still good friends with the ex and apparently Cath said to the ex that she really wanted to hate me the first time she met me but actually I'm alright (the ex told me this and also told me Cath isn't a very nice person) I'm pretty annoyed about the whole thing but my boyfriend says I'm stupid to be annoyed, would you be?
2007-12-04 04:11:00 · 29 answers · asked by Yoyo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are all in our late twenties and this is what makes me so annoyed that these women can be so juvenile!
2007-12-04 04:13:40 · update #1
I wouldn't be annoyed. It is actually a compliment. Her saying you aren't so bad is the equivalent to 'welcome to the family' when it comes to ex's. Of course she wanted to hate you the first time she met you. YOU won and she lost. You have the great boyfriend. I mean, who wants to see someone else succeed where they failed?
2007-12-04 04:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Yoyo,
I believe the only thing you should concern yourself with is the relationship with you boyfriend.
Quite often people split up with their boy/girlfriend, partner or spouse but remain good friends after.
If the split was 4 years ago and they are still friends, that does not mean that they are suddenly going to start up their relationship again. They have both moved on and I assume his ex is now seeing someone else.
It is a natural emotion for Cath to feel less than friendly toward you before she met you, but as you say she has decided that you are 'alright'.
Presumably you have now got to know Cath and formed your own opinion of her. If so, thats the only opinion that counts, your own. If you and Cath get on together and like each other, don't worry about what others say.
I certainly would not say you are stupid, but you may be annoyed about the situation. If I were you, as long as it is not affecting your friendship with Cath, and even more importantly the relationship with your boyfriend, just try to forget it, it is your boyfriend's ex's problem and you should not worry too much about it.
Good luck.
Poseidon
2007-12-04 12:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by Poseidon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust the ex to give you the truth?
Also, are you friends with Cath?
I agree the sitch is annoying, but I guess unless you dump your boyfriend or he dumps Cath as a friend, you are stuck.
Forgiveness is prob a good solution in this matter, especially since Cath thinks you are "alright" anyway.
:)
2007-12-04 12:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by divamom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the two other girls have probably been friends a long time so of course she would say something to the her about you not being as nice or great as her. Give her another chance and if she keeps up the bitchy attitude then you have a right to be annoyed. Over all I'd ignore the comment. It's to early to start making character judgements.
2007-12-04 12:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell Yeah. However, It's relatively normal to hate your Ex's new flame if they still have feelings for that person so in some terms, it's understood. However, if that's not the case well she is or was acting juvenile.
2007-12-04 12:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by chiney cheeks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my friend's ex dated someone else, I would be prepared to hate the new person, too. That's called loyalty. The fact that you are considered "alright" is a step in the right direction. Be flattered.
2007-12-04 12:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by RT 66 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt be its expected...she is friends with the ex but she says you are ok....you have to be with you guy for awhile and eventually they will like you as much if not more.......Maybe the ex wants to make you not like cath to cause problems....the only person that needs to like you is your boyfriend anyways...
2007-12-04 12:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by trueimage_81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes why s it you are up for discussion what they had was over a long time ago why cant they just move on and try to live their own lives your bf has a point though don't stress over rumors or drama you'll end up worse off ten when you started
2007-12-04 12:15:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, reading this was annoyed me a little..and it was a little confusing. Move on, if you don't like that person for whay she said, don't be her best friend.. what do you want me to tell you..
2007-12-04 12:15:21 · answer #9 · answered by determined_ladii 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not really, some people keep the highschool mentality even after they leave. Just be the bigger person and turn the other cheek.
2007-12-04 12:14:56 · answer #10 · answered by l0serface23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋