So, I have a 13 month old who has been attached to me since he was born. It seems like me, Daddy and Grandpa are his favorite people. But yesterday I got home from work and gave him a big hug and kiss hello as always, he gave me a smile and then cried and reached his arms out for the nanny. I was immediately heartbroken. Not only was he not so thrilled to see me, but he didn't even want me at all! He wanted the nanny! I know I should be happy that he loves her, but I'm so sad! I'm Mommy! I'm supposed to be number 1! =(
2007-12-04 03:14:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, I have to work. I don't want to, but at this time I have to. But starting in April of next year I will be a stay-at-home mom, so I'm very excited about that! =)
2007-12-04 03:30:26 · update #1
Ok
Hes just a lil baby and he has probly been bonding with that nanny for awile ! ! ! and well she probly had just given him something he wanted or something like that right befor you came home and he was feeling atached to he babys tend to get that was at one point they love you at the next well not even I know but I do know that I am a teenager and that well I have been babysiting for 3 years now and well lil kids love atenchen and they love to have someone to play with but at the end of the day the momie is the one that they want the most he may have acted like that today but tomarow she may do something to make him mad and want no one but you ! ! ! belive me on that one
but one thing that I want to tell you is that well hes going to grow up and well there will be times when he acts and may say that he hates you and there may be times that all you want to do is ground him for life but at the end of the night he loves you and he always will
2007-12-04 04:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do childcare and have had children do this more then once. Of course, the next day, they sometimes act like they don't want me and only want Mommy. Maybe they were having a really good time with the Nanny, or they could have been "punishing" Mommy because she "left" them with the Nanny. We can't know what they are thinking, but usually all will return to normal quickly. I'm sure that there will be times when you actually wish the Nanny were there because you can't get anything done without him following you and wanting all of your attention. I remember when my kids were young I couldn't even go to the bathroom alone!
2007-12-04 12:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by DJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there some compelling reason you have to work with a 13 month old at home? If yes, sorry, but that is the way it is sometimes, he sees the care giver more than you and has formed an attachment. That's better than him crying at the nanny and not wanting you to leave. After all he sees her what, 8 to 10 hours a day?
Don't stress over it, tomorrow it will be different I'm sure, he isn't rejecting you by wanting someone else at the moment.
2007-12-04 11:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by oklatom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you have decided to become a stay-at-home mom. That will make things better between you and your son. The reason you are not Number 1 with him is that you are not his Number 1 caretaker. The nanny has become his mommy.
2007-12-04 12:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's at the stage of familiarity since the nanny takes care of him for a long while he seems to be more attached to the nanny it's just a phase. nobody can ever replace a mother. just give it some time. but i have advice as he grows older don't reject him, show him that you really love him. don't push him away because then that can cause some consequences.
2007-12-04 12:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by Chirisquisquisquis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural. The baby lives most of the time with his nanny and she cares him a lot all the day.Next day he may turn to u or tosomeone else.These are commonhabits of kids. Don't bother about it.
2007-12-04 11:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little boy right now would rather be around my sister than me. Next week it may be his grandma. They change so much. It is probably just a phase. Maybe he has just learned that he can trust his nanny. Which is a good thing. But I can completely understand what you are feeling. So no, you are not the only one.
2007-12-04 11:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I work with kids and they can form quite a bond with strangers at that age.
Dont worry. Ive had women tell me they use my name to get thier kids to behave..ie 'you wont get to see milly this week if youre not good'.
Todlers tend to bond with people quickly, or dislike them just as fast.
your little one DOES NOT RESENT you going to work.
Dont feel guilty, you are obviously in a position you feel you must work until next year. Its NOT ideal, as this is the age of developing trust and strong bonds. Having said that....
I must ask, if you can afford a nanny surley this time with your child is more precious than a job or career? Be prepared to see this, your baby sees the nanny more than you, hes bonding with her. Its natural.
Do you HAVE to wait till april?? im sure you would enjoy a few extra months with your bub. If its a company thing, remember this, they(company) can replace you in one day, but, can you ever get this time with your baby back???
Make yourself number 1.
cheers.
2007-12-04 11:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children do that to everybody. You're not alone. A child gets attached to their mommy immediately through scent. So the attachment is emotional and biological. Don't worry, he will always want his mom.
2007-12-04 13:40:32 · answer #9 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. ”
2007-12-07 15:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋