I'm a single mom with 2 boys, Ive got a great face and smile I am an average built person, who lives life to the fullest, and doesn't drink at all... By my own choice, I prefer not doing the bar scene been there done that never again Thank You its worse then High School...... I am 31 Brown hair/eyes, I am a real outgoing outdoor type of girl I am country all the way I can bait my own hook while out and about fishing.. So why not me?????
2007-12-04 03:00:02 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a single mom with 3 girls....I wonder the same question..
2007-12-04 03:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by My Sharona 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well the only thing I can say to this question is "Step your game up!" Start working out, there are plenty of women out here, with more than two kids and they look like they never had any at all. Your only 31, you still got action at finding someone. Basically, if you start by dedicating your life to being in above average shape, and juggling your family, someones going to notice.
Sometimes the age of your two children might be half the reason why you can't find anyone worth their weight in gold. However that the least thing to worry about. Confidence is key as well, don't let your self-esteem lower to the point where your spirit is broken. Having someone to call a boyfriend doesn't make you entirely happy, God does that on his own.
I wish you the best of luck in the future, think about what I said, make a few changes, pray and you'll get what you desire.
2007-12-04 11:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by 00silky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for a change, it might be that the place where u stay is overcrowded with much prettier girls and greater bodies. Sometimes being a mom or having kids really is a put off due to the interfering characteristics. Trust me I hav gone through it also. The moment you ay that hav a son, "BYE BYE" c u later.
Be a little discreet about your background till you meet the right person. Then pop the pill after you have analyzed that he is the right per son for you and wud not mind u being a mom. This way sometimes it help. I am saying sometimes because u never know. We men are a very unpredictable species at time.
2007-12-04 11:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by PRABAL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you from an experienced single women (8 years)
I been divorced from a man that treated me like crap when I first left I thought 100% I would find my prince I am beautiful some people say I look like angelina jolie anyway I am funny and now thanks GOD I am successful.
I dated and was so lonely desperately trying to find the one for many years and all I kept meeting where men with issue's or men who just wanted sex. One day I asked my now teenage son if he would marry a women with kids. He said mom no man will unless he has problems. I realized no man wants another mans responsibility. If you go on a dating website you put you have kids you will get little response then put that you don't have kids and you will find the men who are responding have kids themself.
The best thing for you to do is date casually and take all your energy and be succesfull at anything you do. I stop dating 2 years ago. And I never been happier. I used to be stressed out and dissapointed all the time. Now I focus on my work and my children. Many men approach me and I am just plain mean to them. It is amazing how confident I have become just from not dating.
I have several friends so if I need someone to talk too or come fix something in my home I call and then send them on their way. If you approach life like this you will be happy. Because I am telling you weather you want to beleive it or not the only man you will attract is one who has issue's that you need to babysit.
Once your kids are grown you will be one hot momma. I had an older women tell me take care of the kids but most importantly take care of you. Watch your weight your looks and beleive me you will look beautiful when your kids are grown. I beleive that there is tons of men single good men in thier 40's most of them stayed to help raise the kids and this is prime age for divorced men.
Please take my advise I know how you feel I was you for so many years. I am happy to say I may or may not be getting married in a few months. To a wonderful person who does not have issue's.
2007-12-04 11:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why you can't get a guy so easy is because you do have kids. A lot of guys are scared of that. Here's a little advice; Go to a group which you can find a man that appreciates kids...its called Parents without partners. Look it up online or in the paper. That is how my Dad and Stepmom met.
2007-12-04 11:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by shy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why cant you find a man to fall in love with? is that what you meant or were you meaing to ask why cant you find a man that'll fall in love you ( a single mom with 2 boys)?
if how you typed it is correct all i have to say is the old saying is correct:
if you keep doing what you been doing. you're gonna keep getting what you been getting.
meaning, mix it up some. dont be afraid to broaden your horizons and break away from the "type" of men you traditionally date. each quality, trait, or imperfection that you're willing to accept adds many many men to your perverbial fishing pond thus increasing the chances of a bite on the hook you say you're so good at baiting :-)
if you're having trouble finding men that'll accept you AND your boys. well, i'm going thru that with my girlfriend now. you might want to say and show that you're not wanting a new dad for them but a mate/partner/whatever for yourself. if he says i wanna cook you dinner. dont show up with your two boys without asking first. teach and train them to be well behaved. people are less likely to put up from other peoples children than they would from their own. lastly, you may want to date someone that already has children. wether he wants a "ready made" family or not going from no children to two is a big adjustment. plus if he already has children thats a common thread. something to guys can talk about and bounce parenting ideas off each other
2007-12-04 11:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by cuffem916 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello from England, Karri. Please don't worry, and whatever you do, don't panic. All this means is that you haven't met the right gentleman yet - nothing more and nothing less. Sometimes it is far better not to look for love at all, but to let it find you!
Look at it this way: God made you, and if you are good enough for Him, you are more than good enough for everyone else on this planet. So take a deep beath, consider all your wonderful endearing qualities - and let your charisma work for you. It will - but only if you let it! Promise!
I feel you have been brave to make this posting, and you should be proud of yourself. Be patient - judge wisely - let your head rule your heart and I am sure everything will work out. You ARE special - there is only one Karri!
Good luck, and regards.
2007-12-04 11:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by colonel25743 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men will think twice before taking on a ready-made family and you didn't say if you are divorced or had the boys by different fathers while unmarried. You have narrowed the field quite a bit, and there aren't that many guys like you're looking for to start with. Join a big non-denom church and get active. Something good might happen.
2007-12-04 11:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by TatersPop 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Same reason it took me a while to find mr. right. I had 3 kids was very attractive, didn't drink, knew how to fish and was funny, etc. I met him 2 years ago (at a bar!!) and now have 4 kids. Don't rush it or look to hard 'cause you'll end up finding the wrong ones. You'll meet him when the time is right,
2007-12-04 11:04:00 · answer #9 · answered by christina30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do is to try joining some activites held in your town.. like maybe volunteering.. or helping at a bake sale.. just putting yourself out there sets u up for all kinds of possiblities.. the more you get out there and meet new people the more u set yourself out for opportunities.. to meet any kind of man.. tall, short,, handsom, average... the kinds of men out there our endless lol... next is the personality... then the date... and u know the rest... when u dont put yourself out there u risk a missed oppurtunity that could of led to anything... u never know unless you try?
ANd no there is nothing wrong with you.. and if a guy is gonna go out with you cause of your "looks" then hes not the type of guy you want... it should be deeper then looks.. an attraction then when ur old and gray he can still say man shes beautifull... u need to start being more outgoing and even arrange dates if u must.. no shame in game... or maybe even go to a singles party if anyone is holding one and meet people... never do online dating cause u never know who ur talking too.. meet people the old fashion way... in person.. dont appear desperate... or needy... just be open and outgoing and happy! you will find someone when u are open to anything new!
good luck
god bless
kesha.
I go by this motto.. "when you dont risk you get swallowed up by life"..
2007-12-04 11:12:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Were you in love with the the kids dad? Did it last? NO? It is my belief that it is because it never really existed. We love with all our hearts, but that IN LOVE thing is just an illusion that doesn't last. Just find someone who you can benefit from and get along with, Im sorry to guess your answers. If there really is a love like that, then it is very very rare, and hardly anyone finds it. A love like that, I trully hope you are one of those women. If your answer to my first questions were that you are widowed, then i do appoligize. No chance for a best answer for this one is there? truth
2007-12-04 11:10:32 · answer #11 · answered by jeeni with the light brown hair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋